Being kind is the bare minimum in friendship and it is normal but there are people that probably do not experience getting a certain level of kindness in their lives that when people show them the bare minimum, they think its something special. Thats what makes having crushes on friends hard cause you never know if its a normal level of affection or not
Right.. I think she's been bullied by her classmates before, I feel bad I wanna hug and comfort her but I do not wanna cross the line and do something that would make her think that she has a chance because I don't want to hurt her more, is it wrong for me to do that? Is that cowardly and selfish of me to do that?
Okay but like I understand yeowoon. I've been into similar situations where ppl confess to me just because I'm "really nice" "really kind" and "really understanding" like I've had this one kid who I've considered as my sister, confess to me. She said it was because "no one has ever treated me as kind and genuine as you" Like isn't that the bare minimum to do as a friend? Isn't every friend group like that? I was confused since it was in middle schoolwhen she confessed to me, we're in high school now. Andd there's again this one girl in class, she kept buying me stuff without me asking, like one time she bought a matching cosplay of ness and Kaiser and gave me ness saying that it's for me. Then she brought me 3 nendoroids which is nagi, isagi and chigiri because I told her that i wanna start collecting bl merchs, and thennnn she also brought me those cotton dolls xie lian and Hua cheng, she has the Hua cheng and I have the xie lian, she said it's for matching. Is that like normal? there's this one guy who buys me milk tea everytime too and pays for like the buses that I go to get home. Like is that actually normal for friends to act like that? I feel like I'm just using them for money and I don't like it. Like I just became friends with them because of their money or simply because I'm using them. I tried to talk to them abt it but they just shrugged and off and said that it's okay that it was them who wanted to anw .