Ah… maybe it’s cuz I was raised in a conservative family

This is so on spot..
You know, someone at the comment section on another manga has just laughed at me when I didn't like using sex as punishment and said I'm very vanilla!
As if being so is a shameful thing?

I wonder where it went all wrong in our societie..
It's perfectly normal if one goes on his own pace about his sex life..
No need to shame others when they are perfectly normal (〜￣△￣)〜

I think it really depends on the person and their mindset. I've known plenty of people who have had casual flings and I've also known people who need an emotional attachment before they get intimate. All people I've been friends with. Me, myself, I've had several casual flings, but only with people I was friends with or they were friends of friends. Never strangers.

Wait r u responding to me? I’m kind of confused

That’s also something for me… like if I ever wanted to go for someone they would have to be from a non-mutual friend group in case I do something bad to them. I can’t even trust myself to act maturely. It’s good that you and your friends know your limits but I’m also like hella emotionally immature so maybe this comment felt impulsive to write up

Being self aware is mature. And I'm under the assumption you are young, (do not share your age on the Internet lol, let's just say my brain is done maturing and I'm fully grown) that being said, you have time to figure things out. Heck you might be demi-sexual, but that's something for you to figure out. But if you are aware of your so called faults and your fear to hurt others and having others close to you being able to perceive you maybe you have some trauma you need to work through. And possibly figuring out your attachment style. Take your time. Learn to love yourself. And learn to let others love you. Life is painful, it always will be, if it wasn't there wouldn't be beauty in it.

Yes I am..
I kinda relate to what you were saying..
I was sharing my recent experience with you in my prev reply..
There are people out there might think your look at sharing intimacy with others is bizarre or they may even say it's so old style, but I disagree.. I think it's perfectly normal!
I would've liked to be your friend ^^
Valuing such matters is a plus to me ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

Ohhh okay! I reread your reply and wanted to respond here. Ngl, same. I don’t see the point of using sex as a punishment either. In The Doghouse, I only read it because the art style is such a gem, but I don’t actually really like bdsm. I do like dom/sub culture but without all the hitting cuz frankly, I don’t really get drunk off pain. I’ve never been beaten up but I know the pain of a sprained ankle, a big gash on my arm and etc. Even if it was my loved one who did it because they like it, I would literally stop being with them. That might change in the future and I’m still open to it if I ever do get exposed to it, but I would need them to be patient with me.

I definitely don’t think it’s vanilla at all. Honestly some of the best smutty manga/manhwa I’ve read don’t use any toys, commands, etc and all about the feeling of being able to free their minds and be vulnerable to each other. It should be about creating a mood, being able to provide each other with the same energy and being happy.

Yes, I have so many male friends but I’ve never touched them even though some people may call me a vulgar person. I just like reading vulgar things and sharing them with my friends so they ultimate think I’m also like that, but I’ve always maintained boundaries with the opposite sex since it’s normal to me. Taking steps slowly is the only way for me :))

But yes, we can be friends if you’d like though! Just message me through my profile and then we can share socials. Would love to be your friend also (although through this app is a bit sketchy haha)

I’ve only shared my educational stage before lol. I don’t rlly mind sharing it since most people here are around the same age :))) I’m thinking about getting therapy for it and some meds ahaha. I’m definitely neurodivergent and that doesn’t help at all. I’ve had trouble maintaining friends beyond three years because of like interpersonal conflicts, being a blabbermouth at times, and having an overall dusty sort of behavior (I guess flaky is a better term since I am always like talking to each small group a bit before moving on) it’s kind of how I kept myself safe emotionally lol. Right now, I do have a couple of friends who’ve been kind to stay with me over three years but being busy with our studies have made us last this far haha. Let’s just say I’m almost close to the definition of early 20s. I’m not really looking for a relationship right now nor am interested which might be why I formed such a rash reaction towards this behavior but thank you for the kind words. I’m always thinking I can do more, but I’m normally on the side of giving rather than receiving unless it’s my own family hehe

wtf
@sky PURE COINCIDENCE I see u under this comment section talking about the comment I made on ur previous post for Define the Relationship but I was gonna reply to you cuz I found it interesting how I found u under a different manhwa but wow u obviously took my response from there: “clearly ur very vanilla” very personal cuz you blocked me

my response wasn’t even meant to be offensive, it’s the fact that YOU were shaming BDSM play by saying it’s “not right” when it’s just preference and kinks.