Iseon actually is a selfish ass and not because he’s aro. There’s nothing wrong with not feeling romantic attraction, that’s ok, you can still have a healthy partnership if you choose but you have to tell the person you want to be with so that expectations are tempered. There is nothing inherently wrong with identifying with the way Iseon feels.The point in which he becomes a selfish ass is when he’s like “ But… I probably won’t be able to give you what you want…” and didn’t tell her about he feels and what love looks like for him. Leaving her to accept that feeling that something was wrong in the relationship but ignore it because she loves him enough to do that. He took advantage of how much she loves him. That was actually selfish. He literally didn’t need to keep it a secret.
Yes that’s exactly my thought, too. It’s not about the fact he’s aro, it’s the fact he himself accepted it, knew about his preferences, and lead her to believe it was basically “love”—when it was really just platonic with one sided feelings. It’s messed up and messy in general. I genuinely feel pity for Yoomin, & indifferent to Iseon for playing like that
Ok I love Hyeondo but must admit that I kinda hate that Iseon is very much relatable to myself. We have this almost same thinking that I can understand him. I honestly accepted that fact that we may turned out weird in other's eyes. At some point we are the type of people who would let others pass our lives. Giving space for the other person thinking that's for the better. Bec that's what we thought. I believe everyone has their own ways on things. No one can exactly say it's the right or wrong right away as it varies in every situation. I think this is why that is titled as "the selfish romance". Iseon's way of being in love will never satisfy Yoomin. And Hyeondo can love her the way Yumin wanted him or more than that. So is Sojeong and Hyeondo's case. They may love the other person but it will never match with the other. They got their own selfishness.