I need some life savers

i have no dating exp, so u could j ignore me, but ur supposed to grow together in a relationship, if he's refusing to grow as a person and mature that's bad on him coz everyone's supposed to progress in life, esp in relationships as they mature and u progress towards bigger steps

If a person isn’t encouraging you to grow or growing with you, they are holding you back. Totally valid reason to leave. Stay strong(๑•ㅂ•)و✧

Have you tried talking to him directly about this first? Communication is important in taking a step forward in your life and your partner's life.

If you have told him and his dismissed it multiple times or gotten angry, then the issue is much bigger.

Try and speak to him one last time atleast and express you're concern toward his well being as well as your own well being in you're life and his life.

Explai to him that you want to create more toward your life and that he should try and start doing something about it since he keeps talking about how he doesn't like his situation.

If all things fail, then maybe it's time to rethink you're relationship or get ready to compromise. But personally i feel like if his not going to change, you can't relaly build much of a future with someone like that! Wish you the best!!

We actually did speak about it multiple times, but he kept making excuses as “if you moved in with me id lock in and take care of you” while hes been lazying around at home for a year now and just mow he found a job. But he is only taking it cause he neefs money. And I am still in school and dont see myself moving anywhere in the nesr 5 years as I wanna work on my career. Plus when i spoke to him about it, it made him so upset that he took dru*s (even tho he know i am against them) but I still forgave. I feel like an idiot

I'm so sorry about that, I understand it can be hard especially if you feel so strongly toward him. In reality though, this doesn't seem healthy for you or for him.

Maybe if you two were to split or take a break then he can realize what is wrong and actually make an effort in discovering himself instead of lazying around or taking drugs.

As for you, it will allow you to take a step foward in your life and discover what you truly want for yourself and your career.

Also the fact he was upset and even took drugs is unfortunately another big problem. Even if he was upset, it's not something he should turn to in his time of need.

You may also need to take into consideration that him getting upset over adult conversations is immature, how can you expect to grow as a person when your partner gets upset like a child over things like this which you're supposed to have a sit down conversation about.


I think the best option here in this situation is to take a break to figure things out between you two, it could be a month maybe. Just to see how you feel.

Anyways i wish you all the best, and remember this is your future in your hands, there will always be many fish in the sea but the chance of growth doesn't come often.

Thank you random stranger on the internet <3 i also wish you the best!!!