Anyways I’m mainly irritated at a specific group of readers. Those who rage and can’t accept when a ML upsets the FL or isn’t flawless and is considered a red flag cause he does something they don’t like. There’s MLs out there that full-on cause huge misunderstandings, have ACTUAL red flags like the dude from Say I Love You. And they’re going crazy at this dude??
This is why I believe the shoujo community is the most toxic manga genre fandom. The unbelievably high standards and mindset of ML needing to be perfection or he’s scum of the earth is wild. Shoujo readers tend to nitpick more than every other type of reader.
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Hey heyyy, thanks for saying this!
I just wish it was better communicated to Akane. He has never explained why and only tells her that bit. Ofcrs, Akane interprets it as: ‘Alex is a girl that Yamada spends so much time with other than me.’
That’s why she asks for time to understand it, which obviously Yamada doesnt respect out of paranoia as well that he might have been doing something wrong.
Trust is so easy to break with no foundation or communication to begin with. Akane is also new to the community and isn’t a hard gamer like Yamada, so saying and telling your girlfriend why you spend HOURS ALONE with this new girl will help build that trust.
Besides, it’s normal to be paranoid after being cheated on. It’s human instinct to not repeat what we experienced badly, but overcoming it should also be a priority with a help from your partner. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
Yeah I get it. I never blamed akane at all. I was only annoyed at readers who automatically turned the ML into a red flag simply because he didn’t live up to their flawless expectations or those who have no idea how the gaming community works and how normal it is there.
I think the solution would have akane actually meet the girl to get more comfortable and know how she is and her intent, and also be in the room while he’s gaming with the girl, to see what the conversation actually is like. It showed that he hardly actually talked and only responded in short sentences. So akane could feel more comforted seeing that she has nothing to worry about. I also do think they need to communicate, like akane telling him exactly what she isn’t comfortable about (like if she doesn’t like how long he’s playing with her or if she’s not comfortable with him playing only with her without others). These are boundaries that should have been established beforehand since she does have more knowledge and experience in dating. Or just casually talking about what she likes and dislikes while being in a relationship.
Eh, while I agree with you on the readers (probably kids) hating on Yamada for no reason I don’t really agree that she should have put this boundary in place beforehand. I’m in my late 20’s and I’ve been in a relationship for almost 10 years; we’ve never had a chat about our discord boundaries when it comes to people of the opposite sex.
If Akane has never dealt with this issue before I don’t know if she’d even think about communicating this boundary, she might not even know this was a boundary until now. For her this is probably hard to parse as she probably immediately considered this as the same as him spending hours hanging out with a girl she doesn’t know one on one after being cheated on already. She’s clearly trying to not feel that way as she asked for time to understand so she knows her first reaction is wrong but that doesn’t mean that she was aware this was an issue for her this whole time and should’ve cleared it earlier. Generally, Yamada only spends one on one time with guys or girls she already knows so she never had to worry about this before. It’s uncharted territory for both of them so we should give them both a bit of grace on making dumb decisions/overreacting in new situations (you’re right about the communication after the fact though come on guys it’s just a discord call)
Let’s see how this fares out!
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As someone who constantly watches gaming youtubers and streamers, it is pretty funny that majority of the readers here know nothing about gaming and the norm lol. To those who don’t play or watch gaming, they think it’s crazy to be on call with the opposite gender for hours. When irl, it is the norm. Conversing with a friend no matter if it’s the opposite gender while gaming is normal for gamers.
It’s just so annoying for specific shoujo readers to rage at the slightest thing the ML does that makes them upset and considers it a red flag. The reason I bring up some shoujo readers is typically those who only read shoujo praise green flag flawless MLs and go insane and nitpick at any flaw or wrong the ML does. Yamada has been the most mature during their entire relationship to the point I think people forget he’s younger and this is his very first relationship. He has no experience and never was interested in dating or girls before akane. He will not know the norm of a relationship because he has never even cared about the topic before meeting akane. He doesn’t have any close girl friends to get advice or speak about such things.
Yamada has an important competition for a game, the reason why he’s even gaming with the other girl is because she’s his competitor. He’s trying to learn the most he can so he can beat her. Playing with your competitor can help you learn things such as their play style and other tips they have to get better. It’s no different than watching your opponent to find out their weaknesses. He hardly even speaks more than a few words when talking to her and is mostly listening while gaming. He is unaware that talking on the phone while gaming with the opposite gender is odd for some because that IS the norm in gaming. All his friends also didn’t think it was odd because they all regard the girl like a man.
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People say that he should be more aware and that he’s insensitive due to akane being cheated on before. He’s always been trying to resolve anything akane has a problem with, he’s quick to cut off a friend for her during that time when he started college. He is not perfect. This is his first relationship. He will not know every situation that may cause a misunderstanding. (This part isn’t towards akane as I am not blaming her, this is more for readers who have this mindset): I get being considerate towards a partner who has been cheated on, but not everyone will or should be on high alert 24/7 due to their partner’s trust issues. You shouldn’t be paranoid and avoid contact with the opposite gender cause of your partners trust issues. That’s not something you should always cater to. That’s something the partner needs to work on. Trust is fundamental in a relationship and just cause you have trust issues from your past relationship, you shouldn’t make your partner feel the need to be paranoid to make you feel better. That kind of relationship will become exhausting. Just imagine a man got cheated on in his past relationship, getting mad at you for interacting with guy friends, you’d be fed up at some point.