set a clear boundary with her. be firm and clear. but if she continues to cross that boundary i would cut ties with her or report her. you can even do both tbh.
For me, take it with a grain of salt since I do not know you two personally. I don't think it would completely change her if she would reduce or limit herself on doing those things. If you told her about how uncomfortable you were but she just shrugged it off, it could be that she wasn't exactly taking it seriously. Perhaps a heart to heart talk and explain why even if it was her "humor" perhaps it would be better if she limits herself or do it at tolerable times (or at least a heads up so you're aware of it). Give her a piece of your mind and what you felt and mayhaps she would understand. If not, I'm not sure if both of you could work as friends with the difference in your boundaries.
If it makes any better or add some insights, that typical humor was something that me and my friends also do. Like saying "Love you" or flirty words, or attempting to kiss each other. I've done the former one than the latter and my friends are typically the latter one. I do it because it just felt like fun and playful with my friends, despite not exactly the type to blurt out such things (I was influenced by them haha). However if one of us says they're not comfortable, we'll stop. Perhaps she is more of a touchy-feely and affectionate person? My friends are like that. If she were like that with others, then it means she was comfortable enough to be doing it with you as her friend. If you *want* you can also try and follow with her humor. Do something like over-the-top or jokey gesture to not make a misunderstanding. See how she would react. She might respond well, or she'll now understand your situation.
All of those things is what I only know in my experience, so take it as much as you'd like and do what you think might suit you better or what's better in the situation. Take your time to think about it.
Agree with thesealinermk1!
For me, take it with a grain of salt since I do not know you two personally. I don't think it would completely change her if she would reduce or limit herself on doing those things. If you told her about how uncomfortable you were but she just shrugged it off, it could be that she wasn't exactly taking it seriously. Perhaps a heart to heart talk and explain why even if it was her "humor" perhaps it would be better if she limits herself or do it at tolerable times (or at least a heads up so you're aware of it). Give her a piece of your mind and what you felt and mayhaps she would understand. If not, I'm not sure if both of you could work as friends with the difference in your boundaries.
If it makes any better or add some insights, that typical humor was something that me and my friends also do. Like saying "Love you" or flirty words, or attempting to kiss each other. I've done the former one than the latter and my friends are typically the latter one. I do it because it just felt like fun and playful with my friends, despite not exactly the type to blurt out such things (I was influenced by them haha). However if one of us says they're not comfortable, we'll stop. Perhaps she is more of a touchy-feely and affectionate person? My friends are like that. If she were like that with others, then it means she was comfortable enough to be doing it with you as her friend. If you *want* you can also try and follow with her humor. Do something like over-the-top or jokey gesture to not make a misunderstanding. See how she would react. She might respond well, or she'll now understand your situation.
All of those things is what I only know in my experience, so take it as much as you'd like and do what you think might suit you better or what's better in the situation. Take your time to think about it.
so i have this straight friend of mine. i told her a secret—that I'm gay. i told her not to tell anyone.. i only mentioned it to her because i have an intention of leaving our company.. fast forward, our manager found out I wanted to leave so she convince me of staying on our company just for a lil bit.. now I change my mind, I'm thinking of staying for now.
my problem is, this straight friend of mine suddenly became very clingy after i told her I'm gay. well she was clingy before, but now she wanna hold my hands, she keeps rizzing me as a joke (like doing a kabedon, which u wanna corner someone on the wall smth like that) i told her to stop, but she only told me that I don't need to mind it bcs it's only a joke, and it's one of her "humor".. and since i ask her before to keep it a secret, now she keeps babbling things that would make me suspicious to others, like she keeps saying im so straight and i only talk about boys in my free time (which I don't)
i know her intentions is good, but i don't wanna make things awkward with her. i told her several times I'm uncomfortable, but i noticed she really do joke like that to all of her friends. i don't want her to change her personality just bcs I'm uncomfortable.. what do i do y'all