It’s not a happy situation I agree. But please note that they did so out of concern/love. They aren't being malicious or anything like that nothing comes out good with being too serious with life. Jonghyun should take it as a surprise?
the way his parents are surprised when they discover he's dating a man
Personally, no matter how loving the intent behind it, this kind of lying just to keep him "the innocent baby of the family" is lowkey insulting & straight up manipulative.
You know what's insulting and manipulative? Forcing him to talk about his sexuality when it's obvious he's not comfortable outing himself yet. Jonghyun has every decision to tell his family he's dating Chaeheon, but he didnt and he's secretive cause he dont want to go out of the closet yet. Chaeheon's family meeting in private is their way of accepting him without confronting him "hey i heard your gay thats why you want to move out, is that true?" -- that's what gonna be insulting. And then, since his mother is not accepting of it, the conversation will go "you'll have a hard time with life etc, why dont you like women, etc, maybe you're just confused" -- and now that's manipulative. So, I agree with the other reader saying they did this out of love. Yes they do. And if you know what its like to have a gay family member you'll understand that the greatest form of support a family member can give is accepting that person in silence, if not openly supporting them. For parents who are still stuck with the old ideals and could not wholeheartedly support their queer/gay children, supporting them in silence even without saying it, is a form of love too.
Her sister mentioned something about that, while it’s important for her to preserve his innocence for a little longer, she also acknowledged that her brother will face many challenges given his situation. They believe being supportive will help him navigate these difficulties. They are confident that Jonghyun will eventually reach adulthood and are trying to protect him from unnecessary family drama in the meantime. While being straightforward about the main issue is ideal, it’s also acceptable to keep things quiet until he feels ready to address it himself.
Exactly
guys i agree with the points, I have a gay sibling myself. what I'm mainly put off about is that they're are planning things/having meetings about me and my life behind my back, as if I'm some toddler. BUT, I agree to not forcing him to come out yet. MAYBE it could have been better if it was just the family meeting, not including Chaeheon? I honestly dont't know. It's also so weird he's not even a little bit curious about what his family and chaeheon are meeting secretly about like stop living in La La Land for a few moments bud. But ALL of our feelings in this situation are definitely valid!! ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
What you said makes sense. I think it all goes down to the character of jonghyun being uncurious or uninterested to even figure out what's happening with chaeheon and his family's private talks. Overall, he really just go with the flow and accepts everything that happens without questioning much
Which i dont know if its a good thing or not . I guess if it works out for him then its good? ╮(￣▽￣)╭
right??? like was he just waiting outside the room until their meeting is done?
well, i didn't like that..... i feel like a puppet they're trying to dangle around even though it's about my life and my relationship..