Bro the heck what abt when boys ghost girls after having sex or worse after the girl gives him her virginity?
I mean those are both bad, but being married wouldn't make that any better right? If the guy is so uncaring, that'd he'd ghost you after sex, he wouldn't make a great husband. My argument is about being certain of how your life would be like as a married couple, before you get married. Better for a guy to tell you "I guess I'm not into women" after stealing your virginity in an unfortunate first relationship, than an unfortunate first marriage.
U can still get to know each other before u just get married, when u realize u don't wanna have a future with ur current partner then u just break up and still not have had sex with them. I'm aware manipulative ppl exist but its not the case for everyone. If u keep having sex with ppl ur dating without marriage then ur chances of catching diseases and what not also increase.(its not like ppl get married 3-4 times in 2yrs)
Oh also POS who are like the ppl u mentioned at the end break up with u or cheat on u and get caught(everyone does eventually) cuz they can't wait so long. Regardless everyone is entitled to their own opinion after all
I don't think that you have to be unkind or manipulative, to realize you don't want to continue a relationship after having sex with somebody.
Maybe one person has a high libido and the other doesn't really like sex that much at all. Maybe one enjoys some freaky stuff, but their partner does not. Maybe they realize they're gay after having sex with the opposite gender for the first time.
None of these make someone a bad person or an uncaring partner, but they might make someone think "I don't want to have this kind of sex for the rest of my life". It's better to realize that before you get married, to avoid the heartache, the financial burden, the legal troubles and just social tension in general.
I'm not saying have sex as soon as you start dating, but that you might not want to legally and financially bind yourself to a person who might be incompatible with you for whatever reason. I also think this about other aspects of relationships, like cohabitation and family plans. You don't want to find out your partner doesn't know how to wash the dishes and wants you to bear 10 children after marriage.
Also don't be silly, wrap your willy. If you're in a relationship with someone and they aren't dickheads, they'll tell you if they have some active STD and probably use protection regardless.
Umm.....everything you listed is something I thought (except those who realise after getting married) ppl are supposed to communicate. I mean I'm aware that many(if not most) ppl don't really have a convo abt their preferences in the bed unless they're in the act but here's the thing, like hear me out, if yk u want a future with a person
Surely you should have a convo abt ur preferences and such at some point. Although I get that with ppl being judgemental and stuff one may not exactly feel comfortable. I'm just saying don't just say that waiting till marriage is all wrong and all. If someone failed to communicate that is something they gotta work on. Ah also, unfortunately for no one I don't have a willy ;)
The problem is, most people won't really know their preferences, it they've never had sex before. Reading or watching porn of it is one thing, but it's not the same as experience, so discussing it before might not solve that issue. I agree that communication of preferences is something once should work on, big you can't share your preferences, if you have no idea what they are.
I don't think it's
*I don't think it's "wrong" to wait until marriage, as it doesn't affect anyone else, but it's not a great thing either. I don't see what difference it makes whether you wait until you're both sure of yourselves, and until you're ready to marry, except one has tons of paperwork, financial cost and other issues. You're just risking a lot of unnecessary issues for no reason at all.
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Wait, so is the whole crazy-eyes-face, "I'm never going to love him, but let's pretend", double-faced arc over, just like that??? But that was my favorite part! That's what made it cool to me! Don't pine over him over one night of sex, where he yelled at you! This is why you shouldn't wait till marriage, your libido will make your forgive and forget everything smh.