I just ended a friendship with a person who I knew since I was in 1st grade. Friendships come and go but being friends with a person who has made you feel hurt or invalidated will only continue to make you feel hurt. Aka cut Mary off tf
If she wants to care more about her bf than her friends why should u care more about her? Obviously she doesn't care about u the same so why should u give it the time of day? People care too much about the time length of relationship when compassion and empathy is really what matters
Post it on forum you'll no in question section (i.e here) if you don't want to be shadowban. Also forum has more interactive community.
I don't really know who to talk to but just wanted to get some stuff out and really need some advice or sum idk. One of my friends who ill address as Lilly talked to My friend (mary) about their partner. Lilly tells Mary a problem that happend a few months ago and that their partner makes them uncomfortable and crosses their boundaries when lily clearly displayed discomfort. But Mary started getting angry and kept telling Lilly why are you telling this to me now. And they kept going back and forth and I saw some of things Mary said and it was hurtful to lily when Mary could have ended this in a simpler way and now I'm vewing Mary in a different way now because of some things mary said. Mary kept invalidating lily's feelings and wouldn't acknowledge that her bf was crossing lily's boundaries it just didn't seem like Mary didn't want to think her bf is a bad person. I and my friend group have collectively agreed Mary's partner is weird to and I told Mary plenty of times he's weird and to not talk about him with me and sowmtines she would cross thos boundaries and it's been a while since they started dating swell. Now lily told Mary they don't want to be friends anymore and I'm thinking of not beings friends with Mary anymore and I don't know how since we've been friends for so long so it just feels weird. And I've been thinking this for a while now since there's other things that involved Mary's bf or Mary in general that didn't sit right with me. I know I should not be friends since this si swatting to go toxic but I don't know how to go about it without being weird.