I mean I have a lot of family that have dated without marriage and its been DECADES. Not everyone wants to deal with the legal hurdles especially if they're lgbtquia+ where most countries you can't even marry or it's absurdly difficult, not to mention marriage feels restricting to some people. I'm demiromantic so so long as that chemical bond goes off in my brain and my partner feels the same thats basically marriage in my case. No need to pay all the extra money and whatnot. Plus they DID get married so idk im not seeing the argument
I know they got married, that’s why I said everything aside. What I’m trying to say is how in my personal opinion, it feels wrong to date without the intention of marrying the person. Hypothetically, if you loved someone a lot and they said that they don’t want to marry you, wouldn’t that just ruin your point of view on this relationship? Wouldn’t the person think that this relationship is made out of lust instead of love?
People can do whatever they are comfortable with. It’s not for us to decide what is lust & what is love. People have different perspectives in life that is shaped by nature & nurture, so the way one person views love is not the same way another person does. Emotions are complex & everyone has the right to define their relationship on their own terms. There is no one size fits all.
Again, no. Not every culture even does a thing like marriage, so for you to assume that is pure ignorance. Marriage isn't a requirement to love someone for life; it's a sub option. That's like saying you aren't married without a ring when many couples don't even have them, let alone get married. You're literally self-imposing your views to make them seem better when majority of gay couples can't even legally marry to begin with in most places. And some straight couples are interested. Marriage is a contract. You can love someone without it. And what's more insensitive is to think you can only love someone causs you're married as I literally just told you I'm demiromantic (like a good amount of people) and quite literally can't love majority of people as is. So when I do it's real. Not understanding what's so fricken hard to understand
Thank you for this like genuinely
Okay everything aside I just don’t understand how some people date without the intention to marry… like isn’t that the whole concept of dating?? To get married and spend the rest of ur life with the person you love??