Glad you ran, because ew he sounds like a piece of dookie.
Give yourself some grace while you get used this change. It's okay to feel lonely and leaving him was still a hard choice to make even if he basically forced you into it <:)
You deserve so much better and I'm sorry that happened to you
*Pats you on the back*
Just my random two cents if you don't mind plus you probably already figured this all out on your own but...
Feeling pathetic is valid tbh. But one of the reasons why your feeling that way is because consciously or unconsciously you know you deserve better, can do better and be better without him. It sucks when you really like someone because you would let alot of things fly under the radar because, well you like them and you think there is potential for change but for whatever reason they just disappoint you again and again. Just like our MC and his pathetic lover, your ex boyfriend is the pathetic one, he knew what games he was playing and still tried to keep you around which a big no no, and you were smart and brave enough to put a stop to it.
I'm happy and proud of you for sharing your boundaries with him and though he played himself, and it may have took awhile but you did stay firm and kept your word. And chose you because who else will, you know?
Future you I'm sure is proud and greatful for the lesson learned. Because next time you know better, because there should be a next time, not anytime soon but next time lol.
These failed relationships shouldn't hinder you from love if thats what your looking for. If anything it should help look for quantities that are necessary and beneficial for your future relationships. For instance your anxiety with ghosting, now you know early on thats a topic to tackle, (do they prefer calls or texts, in person. How often do they check in on their partner, are they good with small talk or does it always have to be a discussion). And if they aren't very good at it nothing is wrong with giving them the space and opportunity to do better but honey, as soon as they start slacking off or taking it for granted you have to real it in and let them know your needs aren't being met and they gots to go. They are on borrowed time, and we are not doing charity work here lol...
Anywho, I hope you are giving yourself lots grace and love because at the end of the day we are all looking for someone to cherish us, even just a little bit. And I guess one of the risk is just not everyone cares enough to not hurt us along the way.
Sorry for my long rant, which might even be unnecessary. But I hope you get over him with a quickness. ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ
You have me crying over here thank you so much (づ￣ ³￣)づ sending love and happiness your way
Thank you so much
Thank you sweetheart and same to you.
Completely unrelated but relatable. So I’ve recently stop talking to a guy that I’ve been talking to for years and we dated for a bit but he’s totally not affectionate and I informed him that ghosting hurts me the most because a lot of guys did it when they didn’t wanna approach a topic or cheated on me. so I developed severe anxiety and just don’t like that shit. Well a week after I told this guy about my one literal ONE boundary he proceeded to ghost me for a week because I told him I like him …. Mind you THIS IS MY FUCKING BOYFRIEND…..everything I ever did was wrong. So I left him because it was so exhausting walking
On eggshells and I couldn’t see that being the rest of my life. I would think I was doing good and he’ll just ghost me again and again….. this chapter makes me said because I decided to let the guy go for good … he obviously doesn't like me. Even when he would chase after me to get me back …. I don’t think he ever loved me. I just think he didn’t want to be alone. This chapter makes me feel pathetic because even if he just showed up and put some effort it i would happily take him back. Even if he would say he loved me I would be content…. I’m so fucking pathetic :’( ig it’s a good thing he doesn’t say anything because that forces me to leave …..
Ok vent session over this chapter triggered my lonely ass lol