Everyone, tell me: am I old?

Even if you are married, I believe asking your partner if they are ready to have children and planning for it together is more appropriate than it just popping out of nowhere cause u forgot contraceptives or you alone did it without your partner's knowledge.

Maybe I think about it like this since I don't want to have children but I wanna have a partner.
So yea.

Well, but a baby is a whole new responsibility and I think isn't something to take lightly

You misconstrued my comment.

Babies are something you always discuss even before getting together. ALWAYS. As someone who doesn’t desire children, I would NEVER date someone without FIRST telling them I don’t want kids.

That's logical but seeing as how the couple are, they're a bit stupid y'know

But not everything can be talked about, given how they abruptly got together, they are one of those.

I believe, just between them both, they can't love anyone but each other, if just one of them wanted children, one would need to compromise since they don't want anyone else as partners. Fortunately, they both wanted it lol. They are so chaotic honestly.

I kinda thought it was something more in the line of "is *now* the time to have a kid?" rather than "will we ever have a kid?"

What’s wrong with being nervous about it he probably was thinking it’s not the right time to bring it and the normal thing for couples to have children after marriage if they plan not to its the person choice but they need to discuss it before with their partner

That’s an unusual dynamic to have in a relationship. In my humblest of humble opinions, you should never feel nervous about bringing up any subject with your partner. Cautious? Sure. Thoughtful in your approach? Absolutely. But nervous to the point of fear? That’s a red flag. Open and honest communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and if you feel like certain topics are off-limits or could lead to tension, that’s something worth examining.

Seeing that scene from that perspective does shift my reaction to it. It makes sense that he’d broach the subject, especially given how big having children is. His nervous still bothers me though. Likely it takes away from their relationship being one that’s secured and healthily established.

Idk. It bothered me.

I do get what you mean tbh, but imo it's something that would be more personal, in a sense? Like, there are people who would still get scared of big changes or big decisions regardless of how healthy their relationship is, because it's more about how their brain functions rather than because they've been given a reason to feel that way. Sometimes too, people will just make a "bigger deal" out of something in their minds and later realize they didn't need to be that nervous in the first place. The human brain is a finicky thing lol