Having a child is a 2 yes or 1 no situation. One person said no so it’s a no. End of discussion. There’s no budging from that until the person who said no feels differently. Don’t try to convince someone who is not yet ready to have a child to sacrifice their own happiness and career progression and time and energy. That’s the bottom line.
If you want a child and it’s not an option for right now, get a dog or a cat or a bunny. If you can successfully raise that pet and your partner can see that it won’t be affecting their happiness and career progression in a negative way, they might change their mind on it. But there’s never a rush for babies. Despite what people love to say, the quality of the child does not depend on the mother’s eggs. It depends on the father’s sperm. The egg does not expire. The sperm slowly loses its numbers and its vitality because the man (the one that has to create and produce sperm) loses vitality. A man who wants to father a child should work out regularly, switch to a healthier diet full of stamina foods and taking supplements. They should hydrate well and take care of their mental health because hormones absolutely do affect the whole body. Forcing an unhappy and anxious man to father kids when he doesn’t yet feel stable is only going to cause the baby to have issues. And he’s not wrong about childbirth deaths. Number 1 cause of death to women and child bearing people was childbirth and in many places in the world, it still is the number 1 cause. The chainsaw was designed specifically for the purpose of cutting the pelvic bone to make birthing easier. You cannot tell me that driving is more dangerous than childbirth when the chainsaw was created for birthing. Also you shouldn’t be rushing into having children without reading any research into it, reading any parent books, attending any parent classes, speaking to doctors about how to boost your own health in order for the child to be as healthy as possible, etc. If you want children, great! Do it when you’re in a stable position and can afford not only the costs but the time you need to take off for the child.
Having a child is a 2 yes or 1 no situation. One person said no so it’s a no. End of discussion. There’s no budging from that until the person who said no feels differently. Don’t try to convince someone who is not yet ready to have a child to sacrifice their own happiness and career progression and time and energy. That’s the bottom line.
If you want a child and it’s not an option for right now, get a dog or a cat or a bunny. If you can successfully raise that pet and your partner can see that it won’t be affecting their happiness and career progression in a negative way, they might change their mind on it. But there’s never a rush for babies. Despite what people love to say, the quality of the child does not depend on the mother’s eggs. It depends on the father’s sperm. The egg does not expire. The sperm slowly loses its numbers and its vitality because the man (the one that has to create and produce sperm) loses vitality. A man who wants to father a child should work out regularly, switch to a healthier diet full of stamina foods and taking supplements. They should hydrate well and take care of their mental health because hormones absolutely do affect the whole body. Forcing an unhappy and anxious man to father kids when he doesn’t yet feel stable is only going to cause the baby to have issues. And he’s not wrong about childbirth deaths. Number 1 cause of death to women and child bearing people was childbirth and in many places in the world, it still is the number 1 cause. The chainsaw was designed specifically for the purpose of cutting the pelvic bone to make birthing easier. You cannot tell me that driving is more dangerous than childbirth when the chainsaw was created for birthing. Also you shouldn’t be rushing into having children without reading any research into it, reading any parent books, attending any parent classes, speaking to doctors about how to boost your own health in order for the child to be as healthy as possible, etc. If you want children, great! Do it when you’re in a stable position and can afford not only the costs but the time you need to take off for the child.
Sorry that was kinda long ╥﹏╥