Girl this is a book?? Do you need a publisher
You do have the option to scroll away if you're not interested at reading my comment. Simple as that.
I think the person above was saying that that person WROTE a book in the comment section, and asked if they need a personal publisher.
I'm sorry, i'm a bit slow regarding this matter (pulling all nighters doesn't help lol) so could you explain it again? I don't think i have the braincells currently to understand what you mean. What person wrote a book? I perceived it as sarcasm for a too 'long', according to them, comment
Oh wait, you said 'that person' when the person who wrote the comment is me so i got confused for a moment lol Sure, perhaps they said this to be perceived directly as it's read but it's not wrong for me to interpret it as sarcasm unless the comment themselves tell me otherwise.
On the topic regarding Caesar and Leewon's empathy: You can understand someone without excusing his actions. Trauma isn't an excuse for abuse, it just explains how someone is primed to think.
Don't get me wrong, i like the story because i like dark stuff but i still do NOT think that his upbringing should be used as an excuse for his actions. He still had the option to not be a piece of trash, he knows that he IS hurting Leewon, but his selfish need to possess him overpowers this.
A relationship cannot work with selfishness as its foundation.
Lots of people grow unloved, chased, abused and even tortured but still do not become abusers. Now you'll tell me he didn't have the time to actually grow as a person due to the fact that he's in the mafia and therefore constantly in war since his biryh, and i'll tell you sure, you're right. But this still doesn't change the fact that he's a horrible human being and his backstory doesn't and shouldn't earn him forgiveness but only an explanation.
Outside of fiction NO one deserves the torture of being with a person like him.
My point is, no one needs to "remember" his past while witnessing his disgusting actions, rough childhood or not, understanding his insecurity born from his unloving environment or not.
You don't need to remember his 'sad past', when you feel disgust for what he is doing in the 'current' moment. His past doesn't remove the effects of his actions happening at the current moment and thinking it does, is in my opinion an incredibly damaging mindset to have.
Empathy doesn't warranty sympathy, especially when you're the side receiving the abuse. Empathy means you have the ability to understand someone and understanding someone's feelings, motivations and mindset doesn't mean you have to agree or even forgive it if it affects your personal values and wellbeing. I'm really annoyed when people(not in this comment section necessarily, i'm just speaking in general) think that with empathy you automatically forgive and accept everything about the other person. It cannot be explained in such a simplistic way because it's a way more complex process.
This article is the only one i found which explains it in a simplistic yet accurate way: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/social-empathy/202008/empathy- does-not-mean-acceptance. (connect it from where i left a space for the link to work)