Why are harems so popular I hate them so much

Harems & Love triangles

So they can self insert into a guy that a lot of girls are into

I view harems as more fetish than anything, that's why I avoid any story with the word harem. Esp these action stories, it's mostly tons of big titty women bouncing on one dick and that dick is usually some bland looking male protagonist for male audience self insert. I would say the same for reverse-harems. Ikemen men falling for a plain shy girl. A woman's fantasy.

I can understand the concept behind love triangle but I have no patience for the push and pull deciding between two love interests lol. Like if ya don't make up your mind rn sis ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ

Reverse harems too i hate them alllll I love the plot/concept of these harems stories but they always gotta start collecting waifus/husbandos PLEASE WHYYYY

You get me