Everything we had a problem with, as readers, wasn’t a problem to the bottom….? (That’s what I’m taking from this convo?)
I can see why it was the bottom who caused their strife: bottom pulled away from their relationship during the top’s time of need. Bottom is embarrassed he is now having mixed feelings about his VERY stable relationship. Bottom lost his couple ring and feels even more embarrassed and less inclined to communicate with his lover. All these negative feelings are aggravated by the top ditching the funeral early to check in on him and by the top forgiving him for his actions/losing the ring. Add on to this, bottom is later hurt by realizing the top had experience when he actually had none. I can see where bottom’s pride/embarrassment got in the way of their relationship. It was bottom who originally pulled away and everything snowballed from there.
But, the readers and myself included, were displeased with the top’s response to this strife. I guess the bottom was okay with how his lover responded?
I do think the top forgave the bottom a lot. He forgave him from pulling away when he was hurting. The bottom wasn’t there for him when he lost an important family member which was really left field of the bottom to do. I think it’s important to note the bottom really messed with the top’s psychology when he did this. This is shown by the top making an awful decision to LITERALLY LEAVE the funeral early to check in on the bottom. Their relationship was so HEALTHY before he left, it became toxic in that one moment. Top also forgave him for losing his ring during this time. I would be heartbroken and sulky for awhile about it but he literally doesn’t act that way. He also continues to wear the ring.
This strife should have been shown from both sides. I think as readers we would have been a bit more forgiving to the top if we say his internal turmoil during this time. Unfortunately, we’re really displeased with the top after the park incident. This scene was really the pint of no return for us readers. He was really green flag coded at some point. The park scene should have been angry schmex between two equals/a couple, not one sided. If this scene was revised as such, I think we could have followed with the whole “let’s talk this out in the same place where we were both pissed off with each other.”
Everything we had a problem with, as readers, wasn’t a problem to the bottom….? (That’s what I’m taking from this convo?)
I can see why it was the bottom who caused their strife: bottom pulled away from their relationship during the top’s time of need. Bottom is embarrassed he is now having mixed feelings about his VERY stable relationship. Bottom lost his couple ring and feels even more embarrassed and less inclined to communicate with his lover. All these negative feelings are aggravated by the top ditching the funeral early to check in on him and by the top forgiving him for his actions/losing the ring. Add on to this, bottom is later hurt by realizing the top had experience when he actually had none. I can see where bottom’s pride/embarrassment got in the way of their relationship. It was bottom who originally pulled away and everything snowballed from there.
But, the readers and myself included, were displeased with the top’s response to this strife. I guess the bottom was okay with how his lover responded?
I do think the top forgave the bottom a lot. He forgave him from pulling away when he was hurting. The bottom wasn’t there for him when he lost an important family member which was really left field of the bottom to do. I think it’s important to note the bottom really messed with the top’s psychology when he did this. This is shown by the top making an awful decision to LITERALLY LEAVE the funeral early to check in on the bottom. Their relationship was so HEALTHY before he left, it became toxic in that one moment. Top also forgave him for losing his ring during this time. I would be heartbroken and sulky for awhile about it but he literally doesn’t act that way. He also continues to wear the ring.
This strife should have been shown from both sides. I think as readers we would have been a bit more forgiving to the top if we say his internal turmoil during this time. Unfortunately, we’re really displeased with the top after the park incident. This scene was really the pint of no return for us readers. He was really green flag coded at some point. The park scene should have been angry schmex between two equals/a couple, not one sided. If this scene was revised as such, I think we could have followed with the whole “let’s talk this out in the same place where we were both pissed off with each other.”