I've heard someone told me the same thing, emotional intelligence is different with common sense. Someone told me I may be logical in making decisions and being passive on almost everything that doesn't involve emotions. That's why whatever happens around me or when people try to show their interest I just think they just wanted to talk or apart from what I believe is important none of his/her actions or behavior has any significance
Considering his military position, and hiw the story hypes up his capabilities before showing us how immature he is, id say in a technical sense hes your average man. The problem lay in the fact that hes been coddled by a guy who has the power to monopolize his space and time to the point even his family cant interfere. He doesnt even question if what hes told is fake, and takes everything at face value.
Tldr hes a mature, capable, and intelligent man in every other way but when it comes to romance and common sense because he was groomed to be gullible by his best friend. I know someone whos similar minus the grooming, extremely capable and smart, but dumb as a doorknob
He has trouble identifying his emotions, as well as communicating them. While emotional maturity is different for everyone, because of age or experience and so on... In asha's case he understands logic and reasoning perfectly, but is quite slow in understand or reading his and others emotions. He couldn't sense his father, brother and the princess' husband's troubled expression, and he couldn't comprehend the feelings of the emperor even after all this time.
he is intellectually capable, but emotionally immature...?