This is very well said. Thank you for sharing.
I feel the same, honestly. I was both and I see myself in both of them. I'm still working on my confidence and my communication. I'm not so great at it still, but slowly I'm learning. It's taken me about 15 years. I'm now almost 32 and it's still hard to break these habits. ◗( ╱ ▴ ╲)◖
It really is! Good on you for continuing that journey, despite the pain and struggles. I’m also 32 and I only really started to get confident when I was 27 and the last couple of years it’s greatly expanded to the point where I’m of the mindset that if someone wants a place in my life they have to WORK for it and as soon as I sniff out bullshit I’M OUT
Haha omg I'm meeting so many fellow 30 year olds!! Yesss! We band together. Notice how it's us that are understanding of these situations instead of criticizing the work.
Many people in the comments be hating on it and just find it annoying. Granted, I find it frustrating, but I understand where they're coming from.
Right! I feel like I changed too of started my journey of change at 27 or so! It's so hard.
But it's also me learning not to beg people to stay I'm my life.
It’s so easy to pass judgement on others especially when you’re younger and haven’t experienced these types of situations. It makes me cringe to no end to see how I used to viciously judge people in the past thank god we grew up and have worked past that.
That’s awesome you’ve been able to find power in your journey too! I feel like our 30s are exactly what we thought our 20s would be except this time around we have the confidence and adult money to really pull off what we want in life
I feel for both the MC and the ML. Back in college I had NO self esteem so when I was able to start dating someone I would minimize my needs and not communicate my worries in fear that I would annoy them or come across as clingy. I was so surprised anyone would date me so I accepted any and all bad behavior. I really see myself in the MC and understand that fear firsthand of not wanting to come across as too much and scare them off. It took a long time to be able to build that confidence but I was able to eventually get there
I don’t think this relationship is going to magically get the MC there. He’s really going to need to build that from the inside because if he relies on his bf to get him there he’ll lose that confidence as soon as things get rocky or they break up
As for the ML, I agree with the fact that those of y’all who are slut shaming need to knock it off. College is FOR being a slut, experimenting, finding who you are and things get messy but that’s ok. If you don’t figure your shit out then you figure it out years later when you have more responsibilities and it can REALLY fuck up your life
Sometimes you gotta just let your freak flag fly to see what like, what you don’t like, how your actions impact others, and learn what type of person you want to be
There is no growth without risk. Take this time and just do you. The people who shame you are cowards who are projecting their own insecurities cuz they see you living your best life