Honestly finally someone w common sense. It’s honestly irritating at some point when people reduce these characters into some senseless tropes when they’re more than that. Like you said Andrew has deep rooted issues, esp with the way he was raised that plays a role in his future relationship. Nathan knows what he wants and he knows he’s not the type to chase attention of people who don’t want to give it to him, that’s his flaw. Andrew relies heavily on Nathan to guide him on their sexual relationship which would be fine if he was honest but he also kept pushing away Nathan which was his flaw. They both have flaws as characters and they’re both realistic in a sense so idk why ppl keep villainizing Nathan whilst portraying Andrew as a damsel smh
I haven’t read it in a while so forgive any misinfo. But the flirting/cheating part was so wrong of Nathan, that’s probably why I’m more pissed at him. Besides that, I can see both are in wrong and not just one.
Honestly I hope these two won’t get back together if they aren’t gonna discuss it properly without one running away like a coward and the other being too harsh.
I kinda re-read some parts bc it’s also been a while for me but in the early chapters when the other TA asks Nathan if they’re boyfriends, Nathan says no. It’s pretty clearly that Nathan by character is pretty sexual and he’s open about his feelings regarding sex. One thing that’s important to Nathan is sexual compatibility which we don’t get to see much of in the story, and I think that’s why Nathan gets ticked off so much. Sexual compatibility is pretty important in a lot of relationships so I can kinda see his pov but imo I think it would’ve done him better to address the elephant in the room. Andrew thought they were dating but for Nathan it wasn’t really like that, like I believe he did harbor feelings for Andrew but again sexual compatibility is a huge thing for him so he was testing the waters almost. A lot of their issues could’ve been resolved quicker if there was honesty and communication involved but this is pretty realistic so I can’t be too mad abt it. Though they both need to work on themselves
While sexual compatibility is important, for a better and stable relationship—talking and not turning away partners with insecurities is a big step in helping a relationship. And I thought they were together, but someone told me yes and the current conflict is just the past before they got together. WHEW!
Nathan gets ticked off because of what specifically?
I just didn’t like the way he worded some stuff to that other guy who was coming onto him.
Hopefully this ain’t dragged on…
Nooo my comment got deleted again fuck
Anyways, yes they’re together but the stories now are of them before they got together. The side stories are of them officially together.
While yes, talking and helping partners out with their doubts is apart of relationships, I do think that you also have to work on yourself. You can’t be reliant on your partner alone bc there’s only so much they can do and help with. I think Andrew took the first step and acknowledged his faults and his insecurities but I also understand Nathan, though I don’t like how he went on abt it. The fact of the matter is a lot of people break up because they don’t want to be the “fixer” or a “therapist” in relationships bc it tends to be taxing on people’s mental health. You can absolutely lean on your partner for help but you also need to learn how to handle your problems individually. Nathan in the early chapters made it clear that sexual compatibility is one of his top priorities in relationships and he’s not a chaser. He’s not going to waste time on people who don’t give him what he needs/deserves. Imo Nathan is a person who relies on physical touch and Andrew constantly pushed him away or ran off, so he obv felt bad. He didn’t see that andrew was trying his best for him and was practicing, which I don’t blame him for but I did expect a little bit more from him in terms of communication. Bc at the end of the day he does like Andrew so I was frankly kind of annoyed at him that he didn’t try to resolve the issue but at the same time, Nathan knows what he wants and he isn’t willing to chase someone who he thinks doesn’t share similar beliefs w ig?? But alas, I hope for the best and that this gets blown over
Andrew needs to work on himself. He has been through a lot which has gravely damaged his confidence and a person cannot rely on another person to fix that for them because that relationship is gonna be toxic as hell. I pity Andrew because his love is genuine but he must emerge from his shell because he comes off as pathetic. He does everything to please the person he loves and I think in the future this is detrimental. I was hoping seeing another person take away Nathan would pull him out of his shell but it didn't. I was irritated with both of them tbh but I did see both their perspective and I think it's realistic. Well it's interesting to see what's going to happen next.