read the raws and sighed

P.S. euihyun from LTIT is an exception btw!! he fell in love but he was badass till the end

Preach love preach !

What is LTIT?

Low tide in twilight

im in chapter 27, so i dont know how far the raws you read

But I just want to say something since I relate with the uke, i suffer from detached attachment style but I do have moments where I long for someone (either shown externally, or illustrated by the arts through thoughts) and it can extend to a period of time, usually the feelings eventually disappear as the relationship turns serious.

"supposed to be emotionally detached" doesn't always apply on all scenarios, it depends on the situation and who's that person. I get get emotionally invested for whatever reasons and be detached eventually.

I personally like seeing his struggles and the way he thinks or acts because I relate to him alot, his logic resonates with my insecurity (?) probably. In real life, we are not just a trope that are supposed to stay in character. So I think this story is realistic or at least the artist is trying to show the complexity of such attachment style.

I understand that you would feel that way because you relate to the uke and I respect that. I myself have avoidant attachment (although my doctor doesn't call it that) among the myriad of personality and psychological issues I was diagnosed with.

But I am not just referring to that. I am referring to the uke's cynicism, suspicion, and apprehension towards the seme being thrown out the window just because of the sexual tension and the promise of a good dicking down. I believe as a reader I am allowed to be frustrated by such changes in the uke's behavior, in the same way I might feel frustrated if a friend of mine in real life starts dating a red flag with criminal tendencies just because he's hot.

"referring to the uke's cynicism, suspicion, and apprehension towards the seme being thrown out the window just because of the sexual tension and the promise of a good dicking down."

And for this reason, you're frustrated that the character is no longer "emotionally detached" when he's "supposed" to. You also want the uke "to remain badass until the end."

I'm not against your wish to express your disappointment for what you wish to see in fiction since I also want to express my disagreement on your criticsm.

Moving on, based on what you said, it's also seems like you refuse to see the vulnerabilities in a character. You and I share the same condition, but we may navigate through it differently.

You seem to forget that MC have unhealthy relationship with sex and doesn't have good mentality for self-respect/self-defense. I'm not arguing either you can be promiscuous or not, MC just fail to reach a healthy boundary for himself. He can for others (since he refused sex for his friend's pride.), but not at himself (with other men who also don't really respect him or at least, loved him properly.)

He's a character that's emotionally detached with an unhealthy sex habit. Additionally, he doesn't have healthy relationship with his family, let alone the adult around him (he had sexual/romantic dynamic with his teacher when he was a student.)

It's easy to be emotionally detached, but not when someone just knows how to pull your string. Like what the ML is doing here, treating him right (what he's silently looking for) + teasing him for sex (what he's addicted/coping with.)

I'm can relate to him. I can act cool and be smart, yet, still a victim to someone who knows how to treat me right and promise me good sex (I have unhealthy connection with sex). People saw me as someone who's confident, smart, and have leadership qualities. But? All of that "cool" qualities went down to trash. I was stupid, I lose rational thinking and my pride,because like the MC, I'm emotionally detached not only towards others, but also myself.

MC caught my attention because he was cool, even if he's at a vulnerable state, it only made me root for him more.

I did get out of my situation and I'm invested to see how MC will stand up for himself in the future. Thus, the story is "realistic" for me so far.

We can agree to disagree.

I'm sorry but uhhh why did this become about you? Easy there on the projection bro LMAOOO. "You refuse to see vulnerabilities in a character" wow. The mental gymnastics lol. I just get frustrated seeing characters act stupid, you know, like a normal person? Hope this helps!

You're CLEARLY project way too much onto this fictional piece of media, so much so that you really took your time to compose this emotional think piece to try and make other people's opinion seem invalid under the guise of "agreeing to disagree."

I suggest you get therapy instead getting emotional and forcing unsolicited essays onto people on the internet. Have a nice day!

I'm sorry but uhhh why did this become about you? Easy there on the projection bro LMAOOO. "You refuse to see vulnerabilities in a character" wow. The mental gymnastics lol. I just get frustrated seeing characters act stupid, you know, like a normal person? Hope this helps!

You're CLEARLY projecting way too much onto this fictional piece of media, so much so that you really took your time to compose this emotional think piece to try and make other people's opinion seem invalid under the guise of "agreeing to disagree."

I suggest you get therapy instead of getting emotional and forcing unsolicited essays onto people on the internet. Have a nice day!

Forcing "Unsolicited Essay" is not my intention, you left a public comment criticising a story, did you not expect people to disagree with you?

Just because I'm expressing my disagreement, doesn't mean I'm forcing it to you. I don't know why and how you see it that way , there's a reason why I put "We can agree to disagree", means I respect your opinion. There's no malice.

The point of my comment is basically to say that, you may wish the character to remain cool in the end, but there's something good to see a character being vulnerable at some point.

None of my words were trying to insult you. Even if I say "you refuse to see", that's just me criticising your perspective. Critics doesn't mean insult.

I first began by talking about how realistic his detachment is by using myself as an example. Indeed, I was 'projecting' myself but I only mentioned it to illustrate how relatable his actions were.

But, when you said that we're going through the same boat, I decided to talk about the character's weakness further. Why? I said, "We may navigate differently", meaning to say, "I don't know how you handle it. From my experience, this is what I went through and why I think the character is the way he is at the moment."

I don't know exactly how you perceive this. But I don't mean to invalidate your struggle or make a pity party for me. When I wrote that, I was actually expecting you to talk about your experience in return because in the first place, I brought up 'detached attachment' to explain his behavior, which we both have.

You're talking about how the character is not cool anymore, so I argued it might be because of the character's weakness. Hence why my essay is 'emotional' because we're talking about the character's vulnerability. When people are in their low, they act 'stupid'. You don't like that the character is acting 'stupid', and I'm not stopping you, what I'm simply doing is talking about 'why' the character is 'stupid'. It is not to invalidate your frustration or me forcing my opinion onto you.

Point being, our differing preference for the character's action is the only disagreement I have with you. The rest is me talking about the nuances of why he's like that. Again, it is not me forcing you to take my words.

I apologise if I sounded rude or act emotional in my response because those were never my intention. I believe I failed to reflect that in my words. Again, we can agree to disagree but let's refrain from insulting each other.

Sorry but I'm not reading all of that. I expect people to disagree with my public comment, not make it about themselves, thanks!

And I WILL call out conflicting behavior, especially with the way you're backtracking now as if you just wanted a conversation with me when OBVIOUSLY you were on your high horse when you said "In real life, we are not just a trope that are supposed to stay in character" in your 1st comment, implying I was doing just that, thinking real people fit into tropes.

I'm not dense in picking up conversational tones, and I'm no stranger to nuance as you keep bringing up in your replies. Try owning up to how you REALLY feel and what you really want to convey, because you're not fooling anyone. Anyway, I've said my peace. Have fun talking to the wall!

Sorry but I'm not reading all of that. I expect people to disagree with my public comment, not make it about themselves, thanks!

And I WILL call out conflicting behavior, especially with the way you're backtracking now as if you just wanted a conversation with me when OBVIOUSLY you were on your high horse when you said "In real life, we are not just a trope that are supposed to stay in character" in your 1st comment, implying I was doing just that, thinking real people fit into tropes.

I'm not dense in picking up conversational tones, and I'm no stranger to nuance as you keep bringing up in your replies. Try owning up to how you REALLY feel and what you really want to convey, because you're not fooling anyone. Anyway, I've said my peace. Have fun talking to the wall!