yup, she just offered him another addiction
Realistically, please remember that we're not solitary creatures from our nature and we DO need other people to varying degrees for our wellbeing, through romantic relationships (in any of their forms that work for us), friendships, family, work, community.. There's healthy dependency and then there are pathological behaviours that greatly negatively affect us.
Gren, unfortunately, seems to be struggling a lot without someone familiar on his side and instead of forging new relationships to fill those healthy needs, he's heading down a dangerous path again. I just feel sorry for him.
Girl… we are talking about drug addiction. What that counselor told him was dangerous and counter productive to his healing process.
Girl.. why are you being defensive? I didn't disagree with you
I don’t think you understand my original comment based on your response in your first reply. It has absolutely nothing to do with Gren. It’s specifically about the counselor providing bad advice to an addict. Someone in recovery should NEVER put another person as their source of strength. They have to stop taking substances because THEY want to. That’s the point I made. Then here you come with that condescending response talking about “Realistically, please remember that we're not solitary creatures from our nature and we DO need other people to varying degrees for our wellbeing…” that is a whole other conversation which may very well be true, but has nothing to do with what I was talking about. It’s not a disagreement or me defensive - it’s just literally not what I was talking.
Oh dear .. You're talking about a person ON THEIR OWN, since birth. He needs to be the source of his own strength to fight addiction? In what world can that be the case for someone like him? Will alone is a great motivator , but it doesn't get you far enough, ESPECIALLY for those without substantial support structure and not even a personal relationship on sight. The therapist did a poor job, yeah, but you've to be kidding me if you think that even if they hadn't made that remark to him, Gren would've many chances at recovery being all alone. He needed a concrete plan and loads of support to beat the debilitating loneliness he must be feeling
Next you're gonna tell me "you need to love yourself first before you can be loved by others ".
And speaking of him… his therapist gave him TERRIBLE counseling by saying his brother was the source of his strength. No. You should be the source of your strength to help fight substance abuse when nobody is around. Otherwise you’re dependent on someone instead of holding yourself accountable…