when it's about a guy and you are a guy, can be hard. also if like you repress a lot of feelings or have a childhood trauma that makes you associate love with pain
I see myself in the top, its not that we dont want to realize we are "in love", its more like we dont know what "being in love" means, it can be obvious to most but certainly not for some
Guys in real life is it that hard to admit (to yourself) that you have feelings for someone ?