At least like many he is not keeping him as his concubine or something and
changing law to give uke equal respect as his partner in society
No he's still as creepy. Imagine making your crush and your sister engaged to "preserve" your place by their side, sending them to deserted places just to persue them later, searching their home up and down without their knowledge to prove that you can get married, persuading them not to go back to their families, and general will to destroy anything in your way even at the expense of your own people. With all of it starting at really young age. That is psychopathic behaviour and obsession at it's core, especially when asha knows nothing of this
I really thought how DAMN creepy the emperor is but lets be for real, if he didn’t do all this crap asha would have been slipped off of his hands LONGGGGG ago. Like I get it, you want to marry the man u love