... you were embarrassed to have a sibling age gap?
Yeh its a weird feeling, my older sister felt a bit embarrassed by me too growing up so we were estranged. It also didn't help that I would get teased as well in school.
By the time I was born she was already an adult who had started university, we had nothing in common then and we still don't really. I will never have a traditional siblings relationship with my older sister. Even now I'm closer to my nieces and nephews ages than I am to her so you wouldn't understand until you've had a huge age gap. That's why I would personally never have kids with huge huge age gaps. It sucked.
Me and my eldest sibling have an almost 20 years old gap, and with my youngest older sibling it's 10 years. I'm fine with it, we even close as siblings they even consider their age the same as me lol
But clearly our dynamics growing up were different, I was bullied and distanced myself from her and she felt it was weird af (I'm assuming) and was quite distant. I have another older sibling (7 years) and we close af. I have another friend who has an age gap of 25 years with her oldest sibling (we traumabonded lol) and we went through similar stuff.
I'm glad it worked well with you with your 20 year age gap sibling even though mine was slightly less (17 years) the distance is sometimes too great. I get along great with my neices and nephews but our age gap is (4-8 years) much less and we have a lot more in common since we were both kids growing up together :)
Lol my cousins also have a similar age gap, the youngest is 19 years younger than the oldest. The middle is 10 years younger than the oldest and 9 years older than the youngest. The youngest is a groomsmen at the middle's wedding and the oldest is a bridesmaid at the middle's wedding. They're all quite close, and the groom loves the youngest enough to make him a groomsman which I think is sweet since they don't have a father figure.
Awww thats so heartwarming! I'm glad to hear how much you guys look out for each other. I'm sure the younger cousin will always remember that wedding!
My cousins have large age gaps (around 30 years older than me to 2 years younger than me) and their spread across europe and the americas so I don't see them as often.
Most of my cousins are 15 years older than me, that's thing about big families lol! (I feel like I forgot to mention, but these 3 cousins are all siblings lol) but yea. A bunch of my cousins are married and have kids, so sometimes it feels like you should call them aunty and uncle but they're just cousins
I love the story but the parents pissed me off at the end?? Like having another kid just cause their eldest is gay? Also the age gap is so weird, I had one nearly as big with my older sister and it was so awkward and embarrassing growing up.