The coworker was giving her backhanded compliments from the start, not a reality check. She was being manipulative, trying to put fls self esteem down out of jealousy. Fl is obviously a beautiful woman and since the coworker is average, her only consolation is the fact that fl is in her 30s. If her only reason was concern over ethical reasons, she wouldn't express her concerns with this type of phrasing nor would she constantly put fl down with compliments that are used for the sake of toxically 'humbling' her for no reason.
The coworker was giving her backhanded compliments from the start, not a reality check. She was being manipulative, trying to put fls self esteem down out of jealousy. Fl is obviously a beautiful woman and since the coworker is average, her only consolation is the fact that fl is in her 30s. If her only reason was concern over ethical reasons, she wouldn't express her concerns with this type of phrasing nor would she constantly put fl down with compliments that are used for the sake of toxically 'humbling' her for no reason.