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I don't, because all this is combined with backhanded compliments, not to mention the way it is purposely phrased. It has more to do with insecurity rather than real concern. If she was truly concerned, she wouldn't purposely put down fl's self esteem but would simply explain her view on the specific matter. Backhanded compliments stem from manipulation and their only purpose is to toxically 'humble' you.
I get the girls pov (the coworker), the FL clearly was soo in love with her (now ex) husband and then suddently, when the ML apearead her Attitude changed almost completely (before the whole cheating) so,, i get her thoughts (+ the big age gap, like,, i feel like she's kinda concerned)...
I guess we'll have to wait to see what she says to the ML. If its wayy out of place, i take my comment back.