Cause either he feels like a toy if he’s done it a lot or he feels uncomfortable (like now) cause he’s a completely innocent virgin on all fronts.
what do you mean a toy? that's an old man on a dating app. he's no doubt run throw himself
It’s not actually about how many partners he has or hasn’t had. It’s the stigma that young people with a high body count just play around with people and can’t commit so since he wants a ds partnership or a BDSM partner aka longer term commitments, he doesn’t want to essentially be a one night stand dom dildo. Also it’s a matter of first impression disillusionment. The kid seems innocent and pure so when he’s coming on hard, the whole impression ahjuicy had of him just fades away.
and I'm judging him for that, bc nowhere did it state he was looking for a relationship or exclusive bdsm partnership. initiating something after several "eat" dates is a natural progression, not a hard advance. what I'm implying is this old man probably hates the idea of him having done this multiple times, which feels quite distasteful to me. we know he's talking about bdsm and not sex in this instance. it's the double standards that irks me; it's common for both the audience and the ML to apply this stigma on bottoms ONLY, and this man is no exception. that's where my disappointment stems from.
I think it's more of a kink thing than an emotional one
isn't that a good thing tho?
Yes it did! On the app. It said it on his profile. As for applying the stigma to bottoms, yes it happens in society but that’s not what he’s doing. Also like whore said, it’s most likely a kink thing. Personally I’m a switch but I majority bottom and I hate tops who sleep around too much cause to me, that could be a sign that I could be cheated on. It’s not always true and some people who sleep around a lot are actually the most loyal people in relationships but I am just not strong enough to take that risk myself. You have no idea why he doesn’t feel comfortable.
Hm... honestly tho I'm pending more to the kink side than ahjuicy actually being prejudiced against him having experience. Shame kink is a thing afterall and many couples like to talk dirty on bed. And there's a difference between calling someone seductive or even derogatory terms like slut in a positive and flattering way and in a really offensive one. Ahjuicy got more worried and turned off in a way by his inexperience than the other way around...
True but I was just giving one option to original OP. It is true that older people have this stereotype of younger generations being players and whores so in a more conservative place like Asia, it’s pretty expected that those stereotypes are commonly thought. I wasn’t just talking about ahjuicy. I do think it’s more a kink thing but the reason he’s using that specifically is the stereotype more so than his actions.
Yup I do agree with you on this one... honestly, I'm in my 30's and I have no idea what the younger one have in thair heads anymore... but I ain't gonna judge them in regards of relationships cuz my generation was as bad at that age... but it's also true that at that age people are more reckless than at my age... sure there are exceptions but when you start to near 30 society in general starts to demand that adults settle down and start family and all... the question changes from "what about boyfriends?" to "what about marriage?" to "what about kids?"...
But yeah... 22/23 going strong after a 42... I mean... ahjuicy is ahjuicy... but it can raise some eyebrows...
Exactly! I’m 22 this year and I would 1000% go after a 42 year old who looks like him but I would totally understand if he thinks I’m playing him for a food and being a gold digger cause I know what it must look like but I just like the maturity and sexiness an older man brings guys my age are stupid
old man, wth are you pressed about how many times he's done it?