adding onto this: It’s like semes are allowed to actually have a fulfilling life, with accomplishments, relationships and life experience, while the uke has to live in the dirt, holding onto the final hope that a guy might like him back.
Agree with you 10000%. I don’t know why the semes all have god complexes. It genuinly feels like there’s a lot of unintentional gender-power dynamics that are written into the characters of semes and ukes that are reeeeaaalllllyyy misogynistic
UGH RIGHT.
and then to circumvent this problem, instead of balancing the power hierarchy by bringing the seme down and bringing the uke up. It seems to be a growing trend (that’s glorified as good writing no matter the bl) to just make them both hyper masculine buff men. I’m not saying there is an inherent problem with that but it does invite QUITE A LOT of misogyny. It brings in the hate for uke’s that are feminine. Labelling them as the only root cause to the heteronormative dynamic that keeps popping up, but it takes two to tango.
another thing that perpetuates this is the skinny body type always being paired with the weak uke personality. Then everyone assuming it’s the body types fault and hating on that because of association rather then criticising the personality alone.
Just the amount of misogyny that manages to sneak its way into the bl community ALWAYS baffles and disappoints me.
Love you for this. Thanks for speaking up on this issue. I've been feeling the same way and the frustration is building up
Thank You cus I’m sick and disgusting by these tropes especially child~like ukes
Preach. Even tho the stories are often told from ukes pov it usually feels like they exists only for the seme. Like you said, the semes usually have a life outside of the relationship, when he’s not on page you can still imagine him existing in the world of the story, while the uke feels like an npc that only activates when the seme is involved or he’s suffering for the plot lol
anyone else sick to death of the cookie cutter given circumstances? like the “straight popular seme good at everything with tons of dating experience because everyone wants him” and the “child-like uke who is lacking in all aspects of life, hopelessly in love and on the verge of offing himself”. Personally Im starting to absolutely loathe this power imbalance being in 75% of bls. It feels like the uke has to constantly be sacrificing EVERYTHING, while the seme feelings are just a whim or sexual desire.