I totally agree. I came back to see if there was a psychological tag because it seemed like it was getting dark and rape-y. I don’t understand why so many BL stories and fans are cool with non-consent.
God it should have a psychological tag I see a lot of people brushing it off (especially if it's a dubious consent situation) as just a part of the genre but IMO that only perpetuates the problem. I can overlook a kiss or even drunk sex if both parties are intoxicated for the sake of a good story, but I can't turn my brain off enough to enjoy stuff like this.
It's frustrating because there are some stories I've genuinely really liked but they still have sex scenes that make me uncomfortable. I make notes for myself to skip those chapters if I want to re-read it, but it still keeps me from wholeheartedly recommending them. The most recent one was Tears by Day, Love by Night / Don't Cry Sunbae - the ML is actually amazing IF I ignore the first two sex scenes. Which just makes it feel super out of character.
This was actually pretty toxic. I was surprised since everyone says it's so healthy, because I low key felt like I was watching sweet baby Jun get into an abusive relationship. Calling Yoonseul a green flag is fucking WILD. He's awful and Jun deserved so much better.
Yoonseul is an aggressively manipulative asshole who gaslights his partner and only cares about his own pleasure. The first season is cute-ish, I guess, but tbh in my notes I started calling Yoonseul trash in chapter 7 and never stopped. I think it's obvious that he starts out as an asshole, but is he actually supposed to get better? Because people gush about the character development and I just don't see it. Even once you get to the chasing arc, he's still a self-centered narcissist who doesn’t actually want Jun to be happy if it’s not with him.
What finally made me drop it was their first time having sex - it was really upsetting tbh. After cornering Jun into penetrative sex despite knowing he was still nervous about it, Yooneul proceeds to be so aggressuve it almost seemed violent, completely ignoring everything Jun says and just jackhammering on and on despite the fact that Jun is CLEARLY not enjoying it. Having a character think “is it finally over” is NOT HOT or cute or wholesome. It makes me really fucking sad.