Honestly, speak your truth. This is such a valid reflection because it feels like such a subconscious bias that we folks rarely pick up on.
you thinking the bottom takes a "woman" role says something too tbh
getting fucked = woman to these people lol
Not to me tho? Might be a little oot, but I always found it weird why some folks don't like bl characters switching because they find that men that top taking on a bottom's role makes them less manly since they see it as the character taking a "woman's position" during sex. Idk man I wish I was more eloquent to explain this.
That is the problem bru a lot of girls here put themselves subconsciously into the role of bottom and then they dont like the charas when those charas are not fitting into our own patriarchal ideas. But ur NAWT ready for this kinda talk. u need more gender studies to develop this type of critical understanding
Its bcs they only ask for switch when the top is significantly bigger looking than the bottom. So yea it also reinforces that bottom needs to be shorter than their top cuz top is THEEE man and girls gotta project into the smaller bottom. When they see a non heteronormative dynamic in bl they do nawt like it subconsciously.
Yea that is the whole point of this criticism cuz the whole bl thing is heteronormative. Bottoms being shorter weaker always bottoming w no issue of getting their assholes destroyed w no douching and their tops NOT EVEN BEING GAY sometimes. this here isnt reflective to how gay relationships work, it is just a porn piece w no women FOR women so they can enjoy w out actually being involved.
I won’t lie, I am not super okay with slutty people, be it bottom or top, I don’t discriminate—but I do feel a bit more annoyed with slutty tops.
Also I love your take, and I feel that it’s usually the women being slut shamed in real world. In BL, bottoms aren’t a reflection of real world gay relationships as you said. I see why you said “women” role, instead of women role.
I grew up in a conservative household (Asian), so my brain is wired a certain way. I wouldn’t shame slutty people though, I would keep any negative thoughts to myself. Nor would I tell them to stop, why should I? It’s not my business.
I guess it’s more of doing it in front of someone that doesn’t want to participate, makes it feel icky. Jian being on drugs while fucking is also sad and hard to read.
But I wouldn’t dehumanise a human being for doing something that’s natural—sex is natural. I can understand that at least.
I understand that Jian is willingly fucking with others, not exactly or only because he loves it so much but it seems like he’s distracting himself from the discomfort and pain in life.
Good words, “isn’t reflective to how gay relationships work”.
—I genuinely hope people who read BL don’t think that men’s ass can lubricate itself, or thinking that it can be fine without douching, etc. and I hope they know that switches are pretty common in real world than in BL.
what the hell sure
I recommend bell hooks as a beginning point
okay buddy
Ngl call me too woke or something but not liking the bottom being a whore screams internalized misogyny bcs it is ok for tops to fuck every single hole with or without consent - it is always hot but when u see a bottom (who is taking the "women" role obvioysly) being sloppy asf it is the worst thing ever and not fun anymore. Even uninteresting going as far as saying "disgusting" like ur not here reading the first couple peeing on each other. He is a man, who cares if he is getting it up nonstop like why r u all hating and whoreshaming LIKE A MAN??? Some serious issues we need to talk frfr