Does self-awareness cause people to perceive everything as grooming? (Exaggeration of what...

- wdym?

- grooming is by definition "form a relationship with (a child or young person) with the intention of sexually assaulting them or inducing them to commit an illegal act such as selling drugs or joining a terrorist organization."

- I consider grooming building a relationship with someone to abuse them/ manipulating someone so they don't think there's anything wrong about the abuse.

- I'm not sure what you mean, but I believe another child can groom another child

-again I'm not sure what you mean

please explain what I didn't understand(〜￣△￣)〜

I think I understand?

if you mean like where the friends have been friends since childhood, and let's say they're 16 and 18. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

the problems start when the age gap gets larger.

I do believe that 12 and 18 is a def icky. There is maturity gap that is hard to overlook

but do I consider a 18 year old liking a 12 year old *grooming*? No, not necessarily, though I would consider it pedophilia.
You can't control who you like, but you can control to act on feelings or not.
The right thing to is NOT to act on feelings in that situation.
Again grooming is building a relationship with someone to abuse them.

The problem is the maturity gap. When you're going through puberty and your brain is growing, it creates different maturity levels between ages. Like a 16 year old is more mature than a 13 year old.

the brain is done developing at approximately 25 years of age, and it is also there I think age gaps begin to become more "acceptable".

Just my opinion:

1. Grooming is when a person (typically an adult or any one older) intentionally builds/makes connection (emotional, physical, mental, etc) with a minor (or people younger than perpetrator) to get their trust, using it for their advantage (manipulation, etc.)

2. It's hard to say or pin-point as behaviors varies. But when a minor especially a child acts differently towards the groomer and people around them (overly affectionate with the perpetrator, withdrawal from other people, becoming secretive, becoming calculative of their actions, etc.)

3. A huge age gap is definitely weird esp with a minor, I'd say I can consider if maybe 2-3 maybe 4 years gap as long as the older person doesn't have the intent of making connection/relationship stated above with the "minor" (who they grew up with) I don't think it's considered grooming especially if they developed those feelings when both of them are still minors (if there's a hint of overly romanticising/sexualizing of their encounters during childhood, RUNN). HOWEVER, if they plan to confess it's better to wait until the other is an adult tho, esp with huge ages gaps as both of them has a whole life ahead and can meet so many new people. The minor has a whole lot to explore out there.

4. If they're in a relationship where one is 17 and one is 18 turning 19 I don't really have a problem with that those age range typically has the same brain development.

Idk when kids start relationships these days, but if 12/13 dates 16/17/18 I'm not saying that's an immediate "grooming" hapening but parents/caretakers must be aware (grooming doesn't always happen with adult "adult" and a minor. It's about an older person with intentions directed to younger people) as those age group has totally different thought processes that could lead into long-term problems.