I'm good friends with a married guy. We talk some stuff, personal too; basically providing each other different perspectives, reality checks, but also lots of support. And there's nothing flirty, dangerous to his marriage or improper about our friendship.
Might be a matter of age and life experience though ╮(￣▽￣)╭
To me, the ML's claim to severe all contact with the opposite sex on both sides is a red flag. Totally unreasonable ┗( T﹏T )┛
I agree with you on this, I have many guys and girl friends so I’ve heard all the stories. But I definitely think it’s a matter of both people having boundaries. Including expectations in the relationship/ friendship, when things get messy or are left unsaid people mind wonder.
The ML is a red flag if that behavior does play out because it give very much “my property”
I really do hope he was just speaking nons
I feel like so long as he's as open and close with his wife, there's no issue, but if he's choosing to share with you instead of his chosen partners. That's a question mark. Not because of cheating, just, are they really suited to be life partners if he shares more with a friend than her? That's just my perspective. It's not always about cheating but genral compatibility.
I agree. Nothing inherently wrong or dangerous about opposite sex friendships and this is a red flag for this dude. I don't really like his attitude of talking down to her about what he wants from a relationship either. I'd prefer something less condescending while still getting his expectations across. I don't think she's in the wrong to want to take it slow.
honestly yeah same, roughly half my friendships are with men and there's nothing romantic or flirty about it. if they ever catch feelings for me i reject them and they either move on or i cut them out of my life. most of them are in relationships. they're very fun people to hang out with and im glad i got to meet them and be friends with them. i feel like that restrictive view of "why would you want to be friends w the opposite sex" is so sad to have cause why would i abdicate of a meaningful connection just bcs the other person is a man
Icl I feel the same as oppa because like - having opposite sex friendships has been so sussy and the worst experience for me. I dated a guy and his best friend was a girl and find out the girl was after him - it was really annoying and a big headache so I left him because he didn’t think it was a problem to still be friends with her. If I had a guy friend I would drop him but I have never even had any guy friends another guy I was dating later started talking with this one girl at work and they just had really flirty text messages and it wasn’t sitting right with me so I nipped it in the bud before I was gonna start hurting again. All in all if my lover has a girl best friend / a friend of the female gender 9/10 she is after him like bro hang out with the guys wth u doing with a group of girls (honestly it was my fault for ignoring the red flag )