Okay,might sound a bit mean but your statements and questions sound extremely stupid. So,you don't have to stop reading about high school boys just because you're grown up. The problem starts when you're fetishizing them. Talking about fetish,discussion about sex positions of gay man or women is also a fetish. What us even there to discuss about what a person does in bed.The genre yaoi itself is a fetish content because it is catered towards straight women written by women. The same goes with yuri. Most of us started reading BL in general as teens and because we were teens,we didn't know any better. That is the period of mistakes and learning. As adults,people don't feel discomfort towards rape,toxicity and violence not because people will judge them but because it becomes unbearable. Nobody around you might know what you are interested in and what media you consume,unless you yourself say it to someone you're comfortable with. So I can read anything I want without any guilt. However, rape and violence in general is an uncomfortable and sensitive topic towards many,seeing it so normalized physically disgusts many. Although the violence shown might be fictional but fiction and media itself effects human psychology. Which is why media containing porn and violence are told to be restricted.
Also reading about minors having sex is...gross. Being attracted to minor is a mental illness in general and people are advised to seek help. BL and GL is mainly read by many adults(especially gay men and women) as comfort media because these are like only media where they do get represented,so where does someone find comfort in underage sex? You can like a story for it's plot instead of it's sensual scenes but as you grow up,you'd kinda feel disturbed about minors engaging in sexual acts. You'll also find yourself wondering that an actual adult wrote about minors engaging in sex and eventually you might distance yourself from that specific story.You'd not actually be a pedo unless you actually have an intimate relationship with a minor in bed.
Although you said,your comment wasn't necessarily towards this manhwa,I still want to say why some feel disturbed about our MCs in sexual activity. Well firstly,it's because of emotional attachments. We saw Byul growing up infront of our own eyes. He's also the reason why this omegaverse manhwa is so popular in the community. Even when the author herself said that she felt uncomfortable about writing him in sex scenes,people still are complaining. If they were shown as actual grown up adults,then there would be not much discussion. Although the author made her choice making him a minor,some readers still want to see a high schooler having sex. And its disturbing.
I hope my comment gives you a good night of sleep or whatever.
Oh yeah! Since becoming a legal adult last year I’ve thought about this a lot too lately. Honestly it all comes down to ethics, and those are extremely subjective, so I can only speak from own experience…
Somehow it just feels wrong, and that’s enough to keep me from reading those stories anymore. Being wiser than my 14 year old self I also feel like many of the stories I read back aren’t enjoyable anymore because the characters’ emotions aren’t properly motivated or expressed. Their actions, especially the smut, just doesn’t make sense to me. It’s just s3x.
So you decide for yourself wether it’s right or wrong. Will the fiction you consume affect your view of the real world? Will it truly contribute with something good to you? What do these stories mean to you? The fact that you’re asking others for their opinions is in itself a sign that perhaps you should find new stories you can read without guilt…
I know my questions sound stupid, but thats why i was asking.
When u said that part about discussing what positions in bed what is for us to discuss, did u never saw some characters and say "mmm i think he is going to be top" ? (And then it was the totally opposite ╮(￣▽￣)╭) but its more for like when we start reading when we were teenagers i remember when just by reading my heart was beating so fast because of all those emotions that the characters felt and got all excited about what could happen next.
Now that i have read for years i see smut and my heart doesn't beat fast like it used to but does like to see a good drawing. I think all those people that whant to see smut are in there teenagers stage, so we shouldn't be hard and judge them cuz later on they might change there mind.
Sorry i know i dont make sense but its hard to explain.
But i do understand that feeling about byul, as adult we did saw him grow up. I even felt identified with other comment about feeling like her grandmother (≧∀≦)
But i remember some others where we saw the babys and when they were grown up got there own stories we a lot of smut.
And i do respect that in the description is a shounen ai. If its classified like that we shouldn't demand smut stuff. If we want to see smut there are a bunch to pick up from.
Maybe i need to, i never really thought about the under age thing until i read the comments in this manwhua (i always forget how to write it) i was like oooh right they are kids (⊙…⊙ )
But yeah i understand that some stories are not the cup of tea of some people. Like me i also start reading when i was 14 year old and its been 11 years since then. And i always liked horror (i know creepy stuff, but its what makes me happy)
I know is wrong but for me it was always a storie but also know that in real world is different
Harada was and always will be my favorite mangaka. I know those mangas are toxic and have some questionable stuff but the emotions are different from what u normally read like the fluffy ones with happy ending. Not everything is pink. And some sex scenes are just not like necessary. But there they are and just because it has a lot of it doesn't mean i wont pay attention to the plot.
I also don't like some type of mangas like teacherxstudent or brothers cuz that a no good for me. But i respect who do, if i start reading and see that i just drop it. I dont like what people do like commenting mean things and rating them 1 star just because is not your cup of tea. I would just leave it and wouldn't want to make people feel bad about what they like to read.
#－.－) sorry again i don't make sense
Pretty sure if you think about a character's position in bed,you only think it to yourself normally,instead of discussing with others.
Also,we should absolutely judge people for wanting to see minors fuck. If they are a minor,judge them too. People might not grow out of their mindset later on in life. Life isn't shits and giggles.
If people authorize themselves being a character's godmother, then they should behave like one. Instead of wagging their tails,waiting for the very character to fuck.
I know this comment is not about this in specific but i just want to ask your opinions. Also English is not my first language so i might have some or a lot of mistakes in my writing.
But first of all, those who are talking about positions top and bottom. I really dont think is that bad to want to know who is going to be who. U know some people just want to have something to talk about.
But also we should understand that when we first start reading yaoi we were crazy about that stuff looking for mangas with a lot of smut looking on the tags like "sex here sex there sex everywhere " and its not wrong (not all of the people but u know some of us)
People complaining about the under age thing made me start thinking
When did every one start thinking about age on the mangas?. Most of us start reading yaoi when we were teenagers and we really didn't think about the age of the characters when reading. We were just looking for good scenes of smut or a really good plot.
When time goes on we really change the way we think. And rereading some mangas we are like wow, did i really like this type ?? Its has rape, its toxic, really weird stuff, etc. We start to know, and understand that is not real or stop reading it. U know cuz is bad and people will judge you and is bad (￣∇￣")
And i start to make myself some questions, so lets say there is this manga that i read when i was younger about two boys underage with a lot of smut and i like it so much that once in a while i kept going back go read it. But now im an grow up adult, am i still able to read it? The characters are never going to age, but i will. Its going to be wrong for me to read it ? Would i be allowed to keep reading even though and going to be considered a pedophile for liking a manga from years ago??
And if im i a granny that still likes yaoi, would i have to read mangas about old mens??
This questions dont let me sleep at night u.u