That's what abuse does to you. It beats you down, and strips away a lot from you. Your confidence, your peace of mind, etc. And restraining orders are hard to get, and are honestly just a piece of paper. Do you know how many people died from the people who they have restraining orders on? Too many. This is honestly a realistic look on what happens. Your fear doesn't just go away because you've taken steps to get away from it.
I understand that but I still feel a different way based on this particular story. She has gone back in time with previous knowledge. She states that this time she will save her baby and I honestly don't see how she is going to accomplish this if she is constantly afraid of them. I understand what abuse could do to people but I do believe it comes a time where you can't let those previous memories & experiences control your life especially when you are protecting other people or else you will be stuck in a unhealthy cycle & eventually self sabotage yourself. && I understand being cautious but her been this consume with fear when she knows everything already and was given a 2nd chance really frustrates me. But I get your point.
It's PTSD from the abuse it doesn't go away overnight. I know this from first hand experience. It took me over 10 years to get over the abuse & leaving to a whole different state over 1,500 miles away. I had no contact with my ex as he was not allowed to leave his county as he was on probation. He didn't just harm me his wife but also harmed a child of 7 years old this is why he was not allowed to leave his county. The treat of having my child being taken to another country always loomed over my shoulder as I was threatened of this all thru my marriage. Even when we win in court our mental issues don't heal overnight especially while the divorce is still in the process. The issue is the character she is still in the process of the divorce this is the time when emotions are at the highest & you are stressed beyond measure. Keep in mind this is not in the USA but as well in a nation that sees divorce as not a good thing as they try to keep the family together & just to get full custody of your child is very difficult. I myself was often assaulted while my child was a newborn in my arms as we see from the latest chapter we see the same with this horrible soon to be ex husband. He has no thought for the child in her arms & she has been demeaned to think so little of herself and that all issues that occurred are her fault. This is not something that even her being reborn can change over night. I have been put thru windows, walls, was abused while pregnant & my child was born early because of this. It took 10 years to not flinch when someone got to close & would open a cabinet next to me as I was washing the dishes. It takes time its the same effect you see an abused animal will cower in a corner when they are in fear. This is why so many don't tell others about their abuse because they often are told just to leave or get over it but its not that simple. I had to plan for a year and a half just to save up funds and get out with my child into a woman's battered shelter. When we are in therapy in the shelter they sit you down and tell you these men search for women whom have a very submissive character & they over time teach them that they are the issue not the abusive husband. This has to be dealt with in therapy as it takes years to get over this brainwashing they do to their victims. Think about it kidnappers whom they don't know their victims, these victims often get so mentally traumatized they think they love them its called Stockholmers syndrome. So imagine someone whom started a marriage out of love this is even a worse trauma to the victim.
You know what thank you for this insight. Even though I was frustrated with the character I was ignorant to not realize that although this is fiction the portrayal of this abuse is mirroring others who might have gone through this which in turn showing the realistic side of processing abuse and your abusers. I have not personally experience spousal abuse so I couldn't really relate to the character on that level. So I was speaking from the outside looking in. Your also right about how different countries views marriage & divorce I didn't think of that. Although I want the character to be happy and brave I still should show the character grace. Also I'm really glad you got out of that situation. I hope you and your family are safe and good.
:) Yes I got out safe with my child & my child was so young at the time that memories from the situation are no longer there. What is crazy is that my ex's family disowned him after they found out what he had done. I got in contact with them once my child was an adult and they are friendly with me but they have completely cut off all contact with my ex-husband. So for me I didn't have bad in laws as this story shows but I had wonderful caring in laws that made leaving all that harder but after I left they completely understood and were supportive.
I'm glad you're safe. I've never experienced abuse myself, but my Nana and my mom did. Luckily for my Nana it was back when family could get away with handling things themselves, and my mom was adopted by Nana. I'm glad you had support your in laws. It goes to show just how messed up he was.
The way she is so afraid of them is ridiculous to me. Why are you so scared they can't do anything but talk shit just get a restraining order and call it a day. And if they violate it do what you gotta do such a as self defense, sue for all their money, and jail time.You won your getting the divorce, you have child custody, && you getting paid. But seeing her so scared of them is irking my nerves like stand tf up. What's the point of going through the divorce and all this other stuff if your just going to coward in fear everytime your ex and his family come near.