Everything else I could understand and accept but begging for custody of your child when it is clear that said child has already formed positive familial bonds with her caretakers / guardians is not good.
Looking pass just how the dad swoop in when things became convenient for him, taking a developing child away from a good environment that they've attaches themself to is just a bad thing to do. It will have dire consequences on the kid's mental well being, regardless of whether she could still have contact with them.
The better thing to do here is to gradually come into her life by visiting often, then perhaps she could stay overnights at his in a monthy - biweekly status. Slowly introducing his presence into her life so that she could get use to calling him her dad, get used to him. Staying with him should be her decision, and regardless of whether the outcome is them becoming a traditional father-daughter household w/ uncles and grandparents close by or vice versa, this big of a chance shouldn't have been shoved onto them lightly. It should've been a gradual change.
This turned into a big rant where I talked in circles but I just couldn't believe, despite seeing that he's trying and meant well, that he would've been as good of a parental figure as he wants to be. He just clearly hadn't think things through...
Everything else I could understand and accept but begging for custody of your child when it is clear that said child has already formed positive familial bonds with her caretakers / guardians is not good.
Looking pass just how the dad swoop in when things became convenient for him, taking a developing child away from a good environment that they've attaches themself to is just a bad thing to do. It will have dire consequences on the kid's mental well being, regardless of whether she could still have contact with them.
The better thing to do here is to gradually come into her life by visiting often, then perhaps she could stay overnights at his in a monthy - biweekly status. Slowly introducing his presence into her life so that she could get use to calling him her dad, get used to him. Staying with him should be her decision, and regardless of whether the outcome is them becoming a traditional father-daughter household w/ uncles and grandparents close by or vice versa, this big of a chance shouldn't have been shoved onto them lightly. It should've been a gradual change.
This turned into a big rant where I talked in circles but I just couldn't believe, despite seeing that he's trying and meant well, that he would've been as good of a parental figure as he wants to be. He just clearly hadn't think things through...