I don't know how to cheer people either. But, I had something like that happend to me, my friend thought I didn't care that she was hurt, I couldn't say much. I just said that above anything she would always be a dead person to me, if I didn't show my concern was because I honestly was too worried trying to think of a way of cheering her up, but ended being awkward. I think intentions count more than anything here. You cared.
I meant dear not dead omg stupid autocorrect.
lol yea my autocorrect does the same thing to me, no worries (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
thanks though (▰˘◡˘▰)
So I dont need help with finding a manga or a manwha, I just kinda want someones opinion on what to do..so yesterday was a small get-together at my grandaparents home, and my firends dad are friends with my grandparents and so she came with her dad to my GP's home..my grandma wanted me to go but I had work, and so I promised my grandma that I would come by after work..but the thing is, I didnt know that my friend was gonna be there until I got off of work when she texted me and so I texted her if she was still there and she didnt reply b/c they were praying, plus it was her BD and so I thought I could surprise her I guess ╮(￣▽￣)╭
so when I got there, everyone was just praying and since I couldnt find her, I hung out with my cousins, and after the praying was done, I guess my friend saw me and came over..she was a bit surprised but I kinda thought that she wouldve figured out that I was gonna come, b/c a) its my grandparents house and b) she knew that it was my grandparents house and c) she knew that I hadnt visited them in a while..
and so after that whole "woah youre here!?" we talked about random things, and then my cousins wanted to go get teapioca and I saw that she was a bit sad, so I invited her to come along, but she didnt want to and I didnt want to leave her alone at my GP's house when she didnt know anyone, so I stayed behind..she said that she felt bad for making me not go with them and I told her that it was fine and that I didnt want to leave her alone when she was sad..
and so I tried to cheer her up as best I could, you know awkwardly of course 'cause Im awkward when comforting people (￣∇￣")..I also asked her if she wanted to talk about it and she said no and since I knew her really well, I knew that when she said no, she wouldnt talk about it at all until she wanted to and so I dropped it b/c a) if I got sad she would get sad, and b) if I got sad and my family saw, they'd ask me what was wrong and I didnt want her to think that I was sad because she was sad cause then that would be a lot of explaining to do and I didnt want to make her feel uncomfortable..
and so I tried not to show it, I guess it worked cause after she left and got home, she texted me that she was a bit bothered b/c it didnt seem like I cared that she was sad, even though I tried to talk to her about it, she didnt want to, so I just didnt talk about it anymore, and so I guess she thought that I didnt care that she was sad even though I did care..
I guess im just sad that she didnt get the message that I do care for her and I feel like even though I could pretty much tell when she is upset, that she didnt even know that I was also sad that day..and its not just about what happened at the small get-together and what she texted me later about not caring about her, (though tbh that stung a lot) but what happened the day before..I just feel like she doesnt get me as well as I get her..thoughts please?