Can someone help me? It is something related to my personal life. Idk if anyone knows some...

Kuro December 4, 2024 8:09 pm

Can someone help me? It is something related to my personal life. Idk if anyone knows something abt psychology or something. So, I have exams this week and next week, but for some reason, again like the year before- I literally lost all motivation to do any work or get any of the information in my head. Like, I have an exam tomorrow and I feel like I should be stressing but I'm not for some reason, I just feel empty. Also kinda have the urge to just lay in my bed all day and do nothing. Idk if something is wrong with me or smth, but I have Asian parents and they'll legit murder me if I fail, but I still don't care tbh, and I have the feeling that nothing matters anymore. I haven't gone through something horrible or something, it just has been like this the past two years. Any thoughts?

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    Yuki December 4, 2024 8:13 pm

    I'd like to know as well

    blonk December 4, 2024 8:19 pm

    Is it only around exam season? Sounds like burnout

    Kuro December 4, 2024 8:21 pm
    Is it only around exam season? Sounds like burnout blonk

    Uhuh, it is usually around exam season or if I just have a lot of work to do

    Willow December 4, 2024 8:28 pm

    Have you tried over-the-counter multivitamins? They'll boost your energy and help you focus, and they'll put you in a better mood in general

    Hime-chan December 4, 2024 8:28 pm

    I used to study with discord friends who weren't even in the same major, we'd just enter the voice chat and talk about our study plan then proceed to study in silence, checking on each other from time to time to prevent zoning out or sleeping. It was quite motivating

    Kuro December 4, 2024 8:33 pm
    Have you tried over-the-counter multivitamins? They'll boost your energy and help you focus, and they'll put you in a better mood in general Willow

    I'll try those out! thank you so much!

    Cash December 4, 2024 8:38 pm

    This happened to me before, I realized i lost motivation because i also lost my goal or purpose. I took a course major in finance because i thought I'd be good at it and jobs in finance pays well, however after almost 2 years in I just lost motivation; just getting to study was hard and i didnt care anymore whether i failed the exams or missed any assignments. After some thought i realized it was because I was trying so hard at something that had no end goal or like a purpose to why exactly am i doing what im doing. It was like a "what exactly am i doing this all for?" moment, and of course getting good grades means getting a higher chance of being employed, but that didn't necessarily gave me a goal that i was passionate about or a goal that would make me happy accomplishing. In my situation, finding a goal that I'm passionate abt made me motivated to work hard, which for me was harder than it sounds.

    Kuro December 4, 2024 8:44 pm
    This happened to me before, I realized i lost motivation because i also lost my goal or purpose. I took a course major in finance because i thought I'd be good at it and jobs in finance pays well, however after... Cash

    Damn, that's like rlly close to what I'm experiencing right now. I'm following my major because of my parents which could also be the cause if I think about what you said. Thank you for sharing your experience with me, it really helps <3

    getussy December 4, 2024 9:26 pm

    i related to this a lot. during my degree, during and after my 2nd year i started struggling a lot with motivation and finding the will to study for exams, which had never happened to me before. this ended up fucking up my grades a bit which made my mental health even worse as i was used to be a very good student with high grades, and seeing something that didnt quite meet my requirements made me lose even more motivation. it was a vicious cycle. i also started hating my major, or not exactly my major itself but all the other mandatory subjects which made everything even worse. i ended up needed an extra year to finish my degree and it was hard as hell, the only times i could focus were during random bursts of energy at night and i would do my projects and study in an entire night. it was hell honestly.
    as someone mentioned above, studying with friends did help, on call on discord or something, specially at night since that's when im more productive i feel like.

    my advice is to try to schedule an appointment with your school psychologist if they have one; maybe try studying with your friends on call; if you feel tired during the day try vitamins for students specific for studying - they're very popular during exam season and you can generally get them in any drug story, at least in europe.
    also, think if what you're studying is really something you enjoy and see yourself doing; try to set a goal if the answer is yes; if no, see if there would be any chance of changing majors or studying something of your interest after you're done :)

    anyway, good luck for your exams!!

    Bassam December 4, 2024 9:28 pm

    I got like this around my exam periods as well. It got so bad when i had to write my theses (yes, multiple) i even had sui thoughts. I talked it over with a psychologist, and they said that i had passive fear of failure (tho from comments, i think your situation is a bit more different then mine. I would also highly suggest to talk to a school counselor or someone from your school).

    To motivate myself, I always studied with a study buddy (during the quarantine period, we would videochat). When you make a promise to someone, you "have" to do things. It also motivated me to study when i saw my friend study as well.

    It also helps to talk things out with a friend. To have someone listen to your worries and fears and/or even guide you or offer you some kind of advice.

    Hope you'll feel better soon and find your motivation back

    Robo December 4, 2024 9:34 pm

    I am also experiencing same thing for oast 2 years ,i failed my 11th due to laziness ,lack of motivation,so i thought i would do my best this year, first two
    months it went nice but after july i am lacking again

    just_m3h December 4, 2024 10:42 pm

    i probably won't be of much help at all, but i just wanted you to know that happens to so many of us. you're not alone. it's okay, you've got this. you can do this. i have really severe depression and completing my postgrad took almost everything i had in me. but it's over now. you can do this too, you really can.
    one thing that helped me a lot was breaking things down into their component parts when making plans. write it all down. highlight the stuff you finish, colour them in, celebrate them. celebrate the tiny achievements. there was also this app with little forests that grow more, the longer you concentrate (the trees die when you switch away from the app window for too long). those little forests kept me going, maybe you might find something similar to be a good motivator too?
    good luck, Kuro. you've got this

    Kuro December 9, 2024 3:27 pm

    Hey, guys. Small update, my exams r over. I tried using the tips y'all gave me and they genuinely helped me to keep going through my last 4 exams. Thank you for sharing your experiences and advice with me. I'm not doing that well right now, but I feel better than I did before. Thank you all! <33

    getussy December 9, 2024 6:23 pm
    Hey, guys. Small update, my exams r over. I tried using the tips y'all gave me and they genuinely helped me to keep going through my last 4 exams. Thank you for sharing your experiences and advice with me. I'm ... Kuro

    i'm glad you were able to get through your exams! if you ever need to vent or any sort of help, hmu :) i can always try to give you some advice! good luck for everything, and i hope life treats you kindly <3

    Hime-chan December 9, 2024 8:22 pm

    :virtual hug:

    Kuro December 15, 2024 9:04 pm
    i'm glad you were able to get through your exams! if you ever need to vent or any sort of help, hmu :) i can always try to give you some advice! good luck for everything, and i hope life treats you kindly <3 getussy

    Thank you, I can't express how much I appreciate you. Bless you, and thank you once again <33