TLDR, anyways I think they have broached that subject with Byul gently bc in the very first chap you see Hyesung crying and refusing to hold his daughter after birth with byul still in room bc he didn't hold Byul after his birth when Hyesung ran away for some time. I think Hyesung kind of fell in a pattern to over-comp Byul for abandoning him after birth.
The reconcilation, Dojin kind of tried. But Hyesung strongly refused to see her. He wants nothing to do with either of his bio-parents. I doubt that'd change after he too abandoned his own child but he couldn't live with himself. He regreted that decision a lot. Dojin is in a way doing Hyesung's filial duty for him as his spouse by supporting his bio-mom. Or may be he simply feels bad for her bc she too was a victim of Hyesung's abusive father. Tbh, the author should have left Hyesung's mom alone, may be they will try for reconcilation and are trying to show character growth in Hyesung after having two kids of his own.
And I would not call Hyesung dumb, he was really good at math. When he decided to take his GED, he did very well in it. He also enrolled into a college while he was raising Byul. I am proud of him. He may be a bit emotionally, intellectually and physically stunted bc his parents were shit and he very much lived on hsi friend's couch for some time. But Dojin made sure to fill in as much as he can once he knew the situation.
Idt Hyesung is being "carefree" kind of parent bc he grew up in some sort of way, it is a common pattern among couples when one partner is too immersed in their child's life the other partner has to step in and remind them to let loose a little. The kind of parent that acts as buffer. And it is pretty common for teenagers to hate their parents for interference in their life so he isn't wrong.
I guess I meant to say another word than carefree. I meant more that Hyesung, based on my poor memory (again), he seems less worried about Byul being out a little late. While Dojin seems too worried. Even before being parents, Hyesung is the same.
Not that it’s bad! It’s just interesting with how different the parents are. And I love how Hyesung is personally, he doesn’t need to do a 180. Byul definitely got some mannerism/external factors from Hyesung. And yeah, I wouldn’t say Hyesung is dumb when it comes to education, he didn’t really get a chance to show his potential due to struggles. As you said, it’s more of the non academic little stunts, which is perfectly explainable with how he grew up.
Lack of social support (especially from family who abandoned him emotionally and physically), which is quite detrimental to an individual’s well being.
That’s honestly why I’m not really interested in the grandmother. She was abused so I have some sympathy in that regard, it’s explainable why she behaved a certain way and left. But not justifiable that she left and abandoned her kid.
I don’t know exactly how to feel about the scenario where Hyesung might interfere with Byul visiting his grandmother. I do feel that Byul shouldn’t continue hiding that secret.
But I’m sure it’ll be revealed once the conflict of reunion and Byul possibly asking why it’s the way it is arises.
Honestly, I don’t want the reunion to happen. Sometimes it’s best to just cut off contact with parents that abandoned you for years. If it will, it should be satisfying. I don’t think that the author will make it a quick forgiveness. This is just how I feel, coming from my own personal dealings with abandonment. I guess what bothers me is Dojin trying to do filial duty when he knows Hyesung doesn’t want her involved, and now his son is hiding it in secret. But I know neither of them meant harm, so it’s difficult to blame.
I don’t think a parent should hold their child back from visiting grandparents due to their past conflict, but then again…eh, I don’t know.
The author probably will push for a scenario where everyone is happy and family gets back together, honestly i was kinda icked by how absolutely freaking everybody gets a partner, and that no one is alone for some reason in this story. It feels very happily ever after and a little unrealistic
I feel that a happy ending for Hyesung is not seeing his mother. The mother who abandoned him almost his whole life, and was living happily with her new family (if I recalled that right).
Not every relationship needs to be perfect. If they will reunite, there better not be any fast developments haha…
It would be realistic to cut off parents. Even if there are cultural plays in this, it’s not impossible to cut parents off. I think what gets to me the most is others making decisions for Hyesung, or to rephrase it: seeing the grandmother when they know Hyesung is quite uncomfortable.
I hope there’s a scenario where Hyesung tells Dojin firmly about where he stands with the grandmother situation possibly, but doubt it cause he loves Dojin and Vice versa. Too cute married couple, unable to keep their hands off each other even in conflict!
I also think that Hyesung can’t force Byul to stop seeing his grandmother. So it’s up to Byul once he finds out the reason for their family separation. He might be pissed off at the grandmother and limit his interactions with her, this is the best outcome if not the cut off route.
I personally don’t like calling Hyesung and Byul dumb but they are at times. Especially with what Hyesung has gone through (rape, abandoned by mother, no education etc), it’s annoying to simply call him dumb. It pisses me off bad! I just don’t think they’re actual dumb people who can’t understand what a name is.
Byul in this case has been heavily sheltered by his parents, he is also privileged to have wealthy parents who can cater to his every needs and wants. That’s big reasons why he’s probably slow in the head.
As for Hyesung, it’s probably due to the lack of education and parental love. This is why I cannot support the grandmother of Byul (mother of Hyesung). Sorry, it’s just how I feel. Correct me if I’m wrong in the lack of education part. I just remember Hyesung attending school to graduate, thanks with the support of Dojin. So I assumed Hyesung was a drop out or didn’t do much of school.
People don’t realize how hurtful it is to be abandoned by own parents. I wonder if the moment when Hyesung left Byul to Dojin will come up, and if Byul will find out. Because Byul seems to be interested in spending time with the grandmother who abandoned Hyesung.
Perhaps the abandonment from grandmother and the temporary abandonment from Hyesung will come into play in the future. Maybe, after this conflict, the grandmother and Hyesung will try to be on good terms and Hyesung lets Byul see grandmother.
Byul will be the bridge in mending their relationship? I hope not. It’s not right, it doesn’t feel right. It feels wrong. And I don’t remember well but wasn’t Dojin supporting the grandmother too? Sigh.
I assume there will be conflicts before the possible reunion of grandmother and Hyesung:
• Scenario that I most believe will happen: Hyesung gets angry when he finds out that Byul has been seeing his mother. And refuses to let Byul visit his grandmother, causing Byul to be upset at Hyesung. Then, Byul finds out the reason why his grandmother and Hyesung are not on good terms: abandonment.
Hyesung feels bad about the drama, and soon comes clean about abandoning Byul after birth, running away out of fear.
Scenario: Byul will either feel angry but comes to understand Hyesung quickly, why Hyesung left and understands that Hyesung was afraid.
Or he will give Hyesung the silent treatment. Like how can I bring up the topic of my mother abandoning me, being upset about it, and then my son later finds out that I had also abandoned him temporarily, and came back — only quicker than my mother did?
I don’t remember how Hyesung and Byul’s dynamic is. In the main story, I remember Hyesung being unsure of how to take care of Byul who was a baby at the time. And Byul would cry whenever with him.
I definitely feel like Dojin is more of the “good caretaker” whereas Hyesung is carefree with Byul and doesn’t seem to worry as much when Byul was out late. It kind of makes sense why Hyesung is like this, he’s never really had time to grow up, no family and little education. Not that I condone. But this is just assumptions based on my poor memory.
Also, this is shounen ai and alpha x alpha (confirmed by author). So, no smut. Plus they’re teens, barely of adult age. Adult age in Korea is 19, and both the main couple here is 17.