Your comment is like a breath of fresh air. You're definitely not the only one who thinks along these lines and it's reassuring to read this point of view, that's realistic and not oversanitized for the sake of adhering to some pseudo-moralist checklist of healthy characteristics in people and relationships, that's weaponized against anyone who dares to present different ways of existing. And that's when you analyze its events on irl standards (which is fine to do ofc), let alone it being a fictional work for entertainment and not educational material on bdsm or relationships in general.
Life's not black and white, strictly divided into perfectly healthy or unhealthy. As long there's a decent balance of needs being met, feeling fulfilled, safe and trusting the other person, there can still be questionable practices or preferences that can be worked through in time (quite abit of time usually) and aren't an automatic deal-breaker for those involved and affected.
Thank you! Like that’s the whole essence of the story. He feels useful being an outlet for Han and they BOTH know it’s not healthy, that’s why we’re kinda getting a push and pull throughout the story and I’m here for it. I love “broken together.”
Exactly! There's a reason why we connect through trauma bonding. And there's no one way to live one's life... that's why we develop our own coping mechanisms.
Ha ha, I unashamedly love this manwha and hope I don't get attacked for saying so. The uke has been through trauma and has fears... but he is not afraid of the seme and has come to enjoy sex with him and sleeps soundly by his side. Not only that but he loves and admires him. The seme is disgusted with himself for initially blackmailing the uke and is trying to protect the uke from his proclivities, which the uke isn't afraid of. So yes, they are my kind of broken together
I don't usually use "well it's okay irl so it's okay here" but when you're into giving/receiving pain you quickly learn that people have the capacity for something that others might see as unhealthy, meanwhile it is actually something fulfilling and helpful for them. So for these two characters to have such depth, for the bottom to actually be "healing" from his trauma enough to willingly endure a session, even to have defied his order to leave, I love it. It works for them and I'm happy for them!
Omg exactly! The top hating what he did, how he abused his authority, really brings it together for me. It makes him human to recognize his own fault. But the bottom is now confident enough to defy him and endure a session for his sake, being content to help in that way. That's the whole benefit of such a dynamic! They both have had "stress relief" sessions now.
They're my kind of broken together. "Broken people being content together in an unhealthy way" lol I can't be the only one who's loving this. Bottom is an adult who made his choice and consented to this and he doesn't exactly seem to be complaining either. Having done stress relief sessions irl, I get it. Bottom is happy being able to help somehow and I won't take that away from him by crying about it being "unhealthy" because we already know this isn't a representation of "good" bdsm.