I completely agree. Tho I think she wants him to still be in society standard physically so people don’t pray on him from the getgo and less about him changing his personality. But it’s still a fucked up way to think
Right? Cuz this kind of situation happens a lot, my own sister used to tell me "don't cut your hair like this cuz you're gonna stand out, people won't like it and you're gonna get bullied for that", well, FUCK SOCIETY I'm gonna use my hair the way I want and if someone don't like it, it's their problem. Sure, there are cases where people suffer physical violence for a silly reason as that, but that's a different story, that's just straight up a crime. Thank god that we live in a time where, in most countries in the world, we have the freedom of expression, and people should feel comfortable in their own skin and just respect each other
Her logic is that she doesnt want him to look like a target. People like to gossip abt things that stand out; trends, news, hobbies etc. Now imagine a conservative and traditional ASIAN society, where almost everyone is connected via social media and therefore feel more entitled to an opinion.
She has a good heart, and she clearly cares abt him, as seen when she easily folded when he said no. She just wants him to compromise a little, and hes not willing to do that and thats OK.
Wait, you're right, I forgot to consider the fact that asian society has a very different thought pattern from here, western society
Idk if youre being rude and disrespectful on purpose but yeah, in eastern society how a person behaves is not only a reflection of themselves, but also of their family name and social standing.
Its why theres so many common insults revovling around family status. E.g. if someone calls you uneducated in vietnamese, they're insinuating that you had no parents to teach you or if someone asks in japanese what are your parents doing, theyre implying that ur parents raised you poorly or in korean where they ask what ur parents do for work, usually trying to highlight social heirarchy. Its also why theres a big reaction everytime you see single parents in asian media whereas it is quite normalised in western society.
No, not at all! I'm sorry if I sounded rude and disrespectful, that wasn't my intention, I really forgot to consider how different asian society is from the western one. I once heard about a japanese saying, it was something like "a nail that sticks out ends up being hammered", so yeah, makes sense if we considered the fact that asian societies are very conservative, be it in physical appearance or mental health (cuz I've seen some people saying that Dohu have autistic traits), which can be even worse, cuz this issues are still kinda of a taboo, right? Thanks for sharing your perspective with me. Btw it's clear how much his sister cares and loves him, so she's trying to protect him from suffering bullying again, but as I said before, I was only considering the mentally of "fuck society" that we have here in the west
I'm sorry, but in my humble opinion, the sister is not making any sense
If he suffered bullying cuz people thought he was "different" then who's to blame? The bullies, ofc, they're in the wrong and maybe didn't received enough education to respect other people. Cuz if we follow her logic, then we shouldn't be ourselves, we shouldn't wear and use what we like or act according to our personality cuz it's "different" from society patterns and expectations.
I'm sorry girl, but that's not how it works, or at least it shouldn't. Yes, even when being an adult, we face prejudice and get bullied, but it doesn't mean we should change who we are and conform ourselves with following what would be considered to be "normal", cuz that's bullshit. People need to learn to respect the individuality of everyone, no matter if it's about physical appearance or personality.