I really do appreciate you ranting about this I was curious about this story as well! But of course there’s rape in it and of course there’s people always defending and getting butt hurt like children that we have an opinion/don’t like rape between the ml and mc… these people get off on rape and hate that we don’t romanticize it/get off on it like they do.
I come in peace. Just wanted to clarify and give food for thought.... Lou isn't mentally a 10 year old. It's that he only has the education and mannerisms of a 10 year old at the age of 20. Think of the difference between an adult with the mental disability who cannot learn or function past that of a 10 year old, versus a 10 year old who survived in his own in a forest for ten years. His mind functions as an adult. He just didn't get the fine tuning people get like editing what they say to the situation. I do agree that his trauma heavily weighs on him, but it's not like Kenny ignored it and just started jumping his bones. Kenny repeatedly said no and gently made boundaries for Lou to stop his advances. Kenny only gave in once Lou clearly stated his understanding of consent and what it means to be intimate. Their relationship is far from perfect and I get you having fault with them, but they can't be held to today's understanding of trauma and mental health. This story takes place about a 100 years ago. I hope you are able to give them a little grace. Kenny did the best he could with the knowledge he had.
Raman and Yexing... I don't think Shahid is a monster but I do not deny he's messed up in big ways. I was quite disappointed in him seeing that. I felt grateful when Kenny punched him because it felt like I got to punch him too. I can understand a bit how it happened, and I can understand how/why Yexing forgave him.
If you want some green flag stories, let me know. I can make you a list from the one I've read.
I might not agree with everything, but I understand your perspective and totally respect it. I just tend to have a very low tolerance and patience for BS. I wish some people could have the amount of maturity you have shown in your reply. I do try to give the benefit of the doubt to see the characters progress, but if a certain amount of chapters go by with no change to one's actions and words. I think you would understand that it does get tiring and a bit repetitive. I've read a lot of mangas/manwhas over the years that contained the same trope that it all blended together with me, and I think I hit my breaking point with this. It's a good thing I took a break from this to gather all my thoughts.
Yes, if you don't mind, send me some of your personal favorite green flag recommendations, pls! I've been going down the gutter recently and have not come out with treasure.┗( T﹏T )┛
I get the burn out. I've been there lately myself, so I get how it blends together and it's like- all these characters suck!! I get it... Trust me. I think I'm able to give this story some grace because it's helped me heal from my own trauma. I've referenced it a lot in therapy. But no worries. It's totally cool if you disagree with everything. I like seeing viewpoints different than my own. A lot of commenters come off like their opinion is fact. It's also painfully obvious that of these people shouldn't be reading these stories be it age or maturity, but I digress.... Gimme a bit and I'll pull together a list. ■ will be complete and □ will be ongoing.
Not in any particular order......
■Park Hanhoo's Manager
■Love Tractor
■Tadaima, Okaeri
■Kiraide Isasete (Hate Me, but Let Me Stay)
□Two Sizes, Too small
■Men's Wear Store and "Her Royal Highness"
□The Insatiable Man
■Swing Baby
□Kamisama no Uroko (The Dragon's Betrothed)
□Therapy Game & Therapy Game Restart
□Birds of Shangri-la (Shangri-la no Tori)
□Yoake no Uta (Lullaby of The Dawn)
■Shima-chan Chi no Tsugai Jijou
□Megumi and Tsugumi
□Houkago no Etude (After School Etude)
□Surge Towards You
■Monster and The Beast
■□Sayonara Game Series (Sayonara Game, Change World 1 & 2, Love Nest 1 & 2, Love Nest 2nd 1 & 2, Engage 1 & 2)
■You Own My All (reincarnated so there's that "mistake" he's rectifying but their 2nd life together is so wholesome and happy together.)
■The King's Maker (Triple Crown, the continuation, is good, but I think it doesn't hold a candle to the original. Definitely lots of stuff happening, but the couple really is great. It's in my top 10)
■Rumspringa no Joukei
■Dear Gene (you can read it by itself, but it makes more sense if you read Rumspringa first. I cried... it's heartbreaking but so good. also in my top 10)
I hope the list helps. I put a lot of titles in case you've read some of them
Ooooh, nice thank you so much. I've read some of these, so I know you have good taste!! Dear Gene is also one of my favorites!! I never view my opinion as fact and try not to cross that line. Like you, I do want to know everyone's viewpoints, whether I agree or not. As long as they are respectful. I think it helps me open myself up to more stuff I wouldn't be open to. Of course, like any other person on this site, I'm no saint and do like some toxic Yuri's and Yaois. Cause drama, and I like to torture myself. I hope you do well in life as well as therapy. Cause I know that shit ain't easy. So hold soldier, you're not alone!!! Thanks again for your recommendations (⌒▽⌒)
The main couple gives me the ick. Has the body of a 20-year-old but the mentality of a 10-year-old. Doesn't know right from wrong and has been through too much at this point that it could continue to stunt his mental growth and make him even more dependent on Kinnard. Idk what to make of it. I've been told it gets somewhat better. The side piece Yexing and Shahid. They had a couple of red flags that made me uncomfortable, but I was able to read through and they had a couple of cute moments so i was wondering what happened to make Yexing to act like that towards Shahid until that one "scene" came.
I let out the damn biggest sigh known to man. If I was Yexing I would not want to be near that muthafucka for the rest of my life. The fact that Shahid continue to harass him years afterwards pisses me off. On God I hate that son of a bitch. Why? Why can't I have a wholesome relationship for once without any rape? Why is this trope so prevalent?
And to you muthafuckers that tell me "if you don't like it then dont read it" or "then cry about it" yall make me sick to the core to think shit like that is normal and just a small "obstacle" for the relationship. You're allowed to criticize a medium that you like or don't like if you read/ watched it. Don't take it as a personal attack. The tags said romance and historical so I expect that and of course i expected for some messed up things to happen. But not in the relationships themselves. The art of course is beautiful that it makes my inner artist jealous.
Ive read a lot of manhwas/mangas and its infuriating how popular it is cause it isnt romance its horror. Yexings and Lous reactions to it and afterwards are the main example. If it had more accurate tags like psychological and horror alongside it then I wouldn't be as pissed cause at least it acknowledges that some of the themes here aren't for the faint of heart and I would have accepted it.
Sorry for my yappin I didn't intend for it too get this long. Im open to hearing different opinions as long as its productive and not just hate. I have more to say but like i said this shit is too long. (〜 ̄△ ̄)〜