This is the take and can be applied to so many stories and irl situations! I’ve also struggled with trying to justify everything with morality and it’s best to let that way of thinking go, it is tiring
“Right” and “wrong” is society’s horrific attempt to logically judge human emotions and behavior. We’ll never be purely right or righteous as humans and that’s smth I have to remind myself of often. We can move more intuitively and emotionally and save ourselves from the headache of making sure we’re doing everything “right”… like u said, at the end of the day, we have to live with our decisions.
This was a bit of a tough read for me, because the older I get the more and more I settle into my own feelings and biases. My aunt and uncle got divorced over a year ago because of cheating, and obviously I picked a side and have my own opinions. My best friend got accused of cheating on her boyfriend, and again I made my own choice. The thing is, is when I was younger I'd try to make decisions that were as "good" as possible and I'd try not to be a hypocrite. But really my decisions weren't always aligning, but I'd try and justify them with morality and what is "right". Now I question why I have to justify every feeling and choice with that complete logical self righteous morality. Its not like I don't have morals, its more that things are complicated, especially with people. And I feel like people are complicated and relationships are so complicated that it gets exhausting trying to justify everything you feel and think as right, like in this instance in this story. I like the main couple, and to be honest I was rooting for them. I think if you're going to live life, live it to the fullest you can. If you think you'll be unhappy at the end of the road if you keep doing what you're doing now (this is just what I think) well I'd rather be dead. It's really extreme but oh well. Part of it is cause its more so their story, and I'm inclined to root for them. That's where the bias comes in, because I know she cheated, but I also know her circumstances. I don't know her husbands. While I'd love to be the all-knowing benevolent person that I'm incapable of being, I've made those choices in real life based on that bias. I've seen both sides and chosen differently under different circumstances. I sided with my aunt when she got cheated on, and sided with my best friend when she was accused to be the cheater. I'm not going to chalk these decisions up as perfect morality. I felt a certain way, I made my choice. Maybe my morals lie somewhere else. I don't fucking know. I do know that I liked this story and honestly hope the ex-husband and ex-wife both end up happier than where they started, can't say I feel like that always. Everyone is free to make their choice.