i think one of the reasons why i find heiner irritating is bc he seems to not even try to change. And no, this is not about who has the "bigger" trauma or who suffered longer. Heiner and Anette are both traumatized. Trauma is trauma. But as much as trauma causes someone to have irrational thoughts, it doesn't stop one from being the very least rational at all.
Heiner has ptsd, yes, and all that pain, guilt, love, and hate led him to hurt anette so much that she wanted to end her life, which caused him more trauma. What I do not understand is how he saw first hand how his twisted feelings made anette suffer in so much misery that she'd rather be dead than to continue living with him, but he keeps acting and doing as he wants.
Like sure, he more or less acknowledged that he fucked up so he agreed to divorce her and let her go, but if u ask me, it seems like even after being apart, he's expecting annette to, idk, accept him again??? like he expects anette to adjust to his trauma and understand that he's that way bc of what he went thru rather than doing smth that could help him (or anette) to start healing.
I really get that he's a complicated character, but i was expecting him to actually have some character development when they split like him reflecting on his actions, facing his trauma and what it resulted to, deciding to try to better himself one step at a time so that by the time they reunite, he'd more or less know how to face and address the pain he caused annette and not this "i am fucked up because of my past and thats why i keep trying to hold on to you even tho i made your life a living hell, i hope you understand"
like brooo if anette attempting su!cide traumatized him so bad, the last thing he shld do is to try to force himself back in anette's life
i think one of the reasons why i find heiner irritating is bc he seems to not even try to change. And no, this is not about who has the "bigger" trauma or who suffered longer. Heiner and Anette are both traumatized. Trauma is trauma. But as much as trauma causes someone to have irrational thoughts, it doesn't stop one from being the very least rational at all.
Heiner has ptsd, yes, and all that pain, guilt, love, and hate led him to hurt anette so much that she wanted to end her life, which caused him more trauma. What I do not understand is how he saw first hand how his twisted feelings made anette suffer in so much misery that she'd rather be dead than to continue living with him, but he keeps acting and doing as he wants.
Like sure, he more or less acknowledged that he fucked up so he agreed to divorce her and let her go, but if u ask me, it seems like even after being apart, he's expecting annette to, idk, accept him again??? like he expects anette to adjust to his trauma and understand that he's that way bc of what he went thru rather than doing smth that could help him (or anette) to start healing.
I really get that he's a complicated character, but i was expecting him to actually have some character development when they split like him reflecting on his actions, facing his trauma and what it resulted to, deciding to try to better himself one step at a time so that by the time they reunite, he'd more or less know how to face and address the pain he caused annette and not this "i am fucked up because of my past and thats why i keep trying to hold on to you even tho i made your life a living hell, i hope you understand"
like brooo if anette attempting su!cide traumatized him so bad, the last thing he shld do is to try to force himself back in anette's life