Personally I agree with you that I would never put up with an asshole like that. But sometimes people fall in love with who a person was and not as they are now. I think Haekyeong is still holding on to that feeling when he felt genuinely cared for and loved for the first time in his life. It’s only a matter of time before he realizes that person doesn’t exist anymore. And he’ll have to let go of the past and move on from him.
I think he stay on his comfort zone, he like to see some of that jerk side like being cute etc. But on the other side he also feel bad with how they relationship go, like why that jerk didn't care at him like he was. But well it still better than putting more stress by ending relationship. It will make you feel like losing something and he didn't want regret it maybe? Or also he afraid he can't move on so he stay on the comfortable zone. I mean he's been isolated by they jerk. So it his first time to have someone like ML. But he also feel bad to ML cuz he think he using ML for his own relief or benefit since ML so kind to him. But liking and disappointed is almost like his daily basis even tho he hate it, it already become his comfort zone. So yes it kinda challenging to be out of your comfort zone.
Thank you for your reply, so it is like been in love of the feeling they used to have, but if I remember correctly, he never was nice with him, in some glimpse in the 0ast he called him disgusting ( please correct me if I am wrong ). But I get the idea of having hope to go back to what is was before !
Thank you for your reply, that is one way to look at it, I personally like staying in my confort zone, but once that confort brings more pain than peace, better believe that I am out ! And my question isnt just about this couple but many ! That I get reaaaally angry with the big question : WHY ???? I rather stay single all life than live in agony with the wrong person !
Yeah it’s definitely like being in love with the feeling or the past version of that person rather than who they are now. A lot of women unintentionally end up doing that in irl when they fall in love with who their partner could be rather than who they are. And in the flashbacks it seemed like when they first first met as kids he was just like a normal friend to him except from keeping him away from his older brother. Haekyeong hadn’t felt care and love from anyone really so any amount of it probably felt euphoric. That makes someone very vulnerable and even people who started out kind can get comfortable and start taking advantage of that vulnerability. It seems that he started being horrible to Haekyeong around when he confessed to him in HS. But by then Haskyeong was probably in love with the friendly version of him for the past several years.
Yupp. And right now i think mc still relatable u know when bad habit keep coming u will say "ah i will stop this" but we still keep coming back to that bad habit. U know the moment he said "i won't live up my expectation" but he still like look at the jerk photos. It already pattern that he delay the moment to out of his comfort zone. And the last chapter is the spark that will make mc more stronger and maybe cut off that jerk filthy from his life (A WILL since he recognize ML kindness to him and caring while his brother is opposite that will ruin him). It was for his current situation.
But for his before situation when MC got peach from that jerk even tho he know mc allergy to it. I also questioned it. He suppose to cut off at that right moment . Well since it already be his bad habit so i kinda try to explained the way i see it.
personally from what i understand i think rather than saying it is fully about his love for him, it is more of a dependent relationship, the story mentioned sir jerk being his friend since young and he was there in the times when mc was feeling down (despite not being the most helpful) but even then as a person who only thinks he has that one person in his life that he could lean a shoulder against, the only one single light that shines, they would be blinded by that light and not even look at their surrounding.
simply put, imagine it as ur only best friend for years, its not something you could just throw away, especially knowing the uncertainty that is there even another person to accept you, like mc mentioned before he doubts himself as someone not likable. so how the ml is pushing himself constantly towards mc and how he affirms him once in a while is somewhat of a nice tactic to reel in this type of low self-esteem that is dependent on an emotional abuser
but ofc whats above is my analysis towards mc's emotion towards sir jerk, take it as a pinch of salt
Appreciate your reply ! I see what you mean ! True that I kever was in love but I try to walk in the person's shoes as much as possible to understand their feelings and what they are thinking, but I fail each time in these cases and keep asking why, so I appreciate your replies. My only joy for now is waiting for the MC wake up call !
that's very understandable, i myself also never really experienced love, but from what ive read, and from my interest in psychology, I can decipher that much from them. It's a fun past time understanding character motivations and the actions that follow. Truly tho, we're getting a step closer to seeing mc finally moving on and im excited for it
I have never been in love so maybe that is why I can't relate to MC, can someone please help me understand why I would choose to stay with someone who did nothing but hurt me over and over with no redeeming quality? Or ma I the weird one ?