you don't get the pain and the fear... like imagine the person you're in love with (and have been for less than a month probably) says the exact words your toxic ex would say to you... ofc it's gonna bring up shit plus he didn't even take it out on geonwoo. he'll confess when he feels up to it, you inconsiderate prick.
It's called trigger words. Certain phrases or words bring back bad memories. Or even a certain song that was playing in the background of whatever in the past n u hear it in the present n remember stuff from the past especially if it was bad stuff or even nostalgic smells etc etc but yeah trigger words ppl have them. ┗( T﹏T )┛ I agree with (name) on this one.
I'm replying bc I experienced this too. I get why people get angry at hajin for this but it's bc (maybe) they haven't been in that same situation. I'm telling ya, trigger words/songs etc. Everything you experienced with your ex is the worst. You can go about your day feeling the best then hear that one song you enjoyed in the past with the one that gave u trauma and it will freeze you, you thought you forgot everything but just bc of that single trigger it's like you're back to zero. You cry buckets again and it hurts so much. It's the worst.
Even though u are aware that it's the past, but emotional/mental trauma is not a walk in the park (it's the worst) that would go away in just a year or two or just bc you met someone better.
At least Hajin is aware that it is not Geonwoo's fault, neither of them is at fault. It's just a matter of how he heals or if he let's Geonwoo help him heal. People have different ways of coping up and healing, and we have different capabilities in which how quick we are able to heal. But damn *first love? I tell ya' that hurts like a bitch. It's already a miracle that he's opening up to Geonwoo. But can we just understand that things like *trauma* is not just bc he is scared ? Iz more than that.
I know this is fiction but it wouldn't hurt to at least be aware, since you guys talk a lot about sympathizing and empathizing. Might as well understand that this is not easy. People who've been in this same situation can relate.
Exactly this.
I'd also like to add that we get a more transparent view of things bc readers see Geonwoo's thoughts and his pov. But Hajin doesn't. So while we can fully know Geonwoo is just a good guy. Realistically how is Hajin supposed to k that and trust that. In the real world, there is nobody that is just purely innocent or good.
I'd also say that the relationship pacing is very fast. It doesn't feel fast bc the story is paced and released in real time but the timeline in the story is quite fast imo
Ate!
i understand how trauma works but what the hell?? after fucking like gorillas and having all the realizations and shit, how the hell is he backing out now just because of a sentence they both said? ugh i get the pain and fear but hello? he knows how much of an angel geonwoo is. i just dont think geonwoo deserves to be hurt like that. and yeah i pity hajin too but if he's tryna love geonwoo, he must be aware that our big bear don't deserve to be doubted just because of a toxic guy from the past. he works so hard to love hajin and to be loved by him. fucking do better hajin (￣ε(#￣)Σ