DONT DO THAT

levipleasecallmeback November 12, 2024 7:05 pm

i hate when a character is having a panic attack and their love interest kisses them so they could calm down??? it doesn’t work like that… i find it very cringe since there was other good intimate ways to help him but why was a deep kiss the first option instead of regulating his breathing ?

Responses
    Maerin November 12, 2024 8:21 pm

    He basically cut off his breathing so he could start anew, idk.. I've suffered a lot from panic attacks, usually the aftermath lasted for week, when I wasn't able to do anything, but noone kissed me back then, so I couldn't know.. mby it could help..

    CabbagePanda November 13, 2024 12:53 am

    Um ngl if my pretend boyfriend just randomly kissed me when I was having a panic attack, it'd probably snap me out of it pretty fast. Idk why everyone is so quick to dismiss physical touch when the absolute worst thing I want to hear when I'm having trouble breathing is "just breath"... Not to write a whole paragraph but the fastest way I've gotten over an attack was with a tight hug, like skin on skin contact is literally used to save babies. This is not an attack on what you were saying at all btw

    Lin November 13, 2024 1:04 am
    Um ngl if my pretend boyfriend just randomly kissed me when I was having a panic attack, it'd probably snap me out of it pretty fast. Idk why everyone is so quick to dismiss physical touch when the absolute wor... CabbagePanda

    Hugs worked for me too. Never discount a good hug.

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 1:09 am
    He basically cut off his breathing so he could start anew, idk.. I've suffered a lot from panic attacks, usually the aftermath lasted for week, when I wasn't able to do anything, but noone kissed me back then, ... Maerin

    trust me i knew what purpose it was trying to serve (helping him breathe deeply)

    however kissing is not at all effective in this case and quite overwhelming, it’s not a one all be all treatment. and there were better ways to help him breathe. which is why i find it cringe when it’s used as a romantic device, the character is surprised and quickly recovers when it’s not like that at all yk?

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 1:21 am
    Um ngl if my pretend boyfriend just randomly kissed me when I was having a panic attack, it'd probably snap me out of it pretty fast. Idk why everyone is so quick to dismiss physical touch when the absolute wor... CabbagePanda

    but that’s not how a panic attack is resolved ╥﹏╥ shocking someone with a kiss wouldn’t help them regulate their breathing, instead it’s overstimulating and less productive than any other way. im not searching for realism, but it’s an ick i have with stories that inaccurately portray mental illnesses. (a make out and suddenly he’s fine)

    also i think you missed the part where i said “i find it very cringe since there was other good intimate ways to help him” ! i never implied talking someone through a panic attack was the only and best way, and literally vouched for physical contact just not a kiss. other good intimate ways = physical touch soo…

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 1:23 am
    Hugs worked for me too. Never discount a good hug. Lin

    … ?? you guys are not reading my paragraph correctly when i literally said there was other intimate ways to relieve him just NOT A KISS

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 1:26 am

    you guys are killing me with this misunderstanding. what could “other good intimate ways” possibly mean other than physical touch im so lost right now ?

    CabbagePanda November 13, 2024 1:46 am
    but that’s not how a panic attack is resolved ╥﹏╥ shocking someone with a kiss wouldn’t help them regulate their breathing, instead it’s overstimulating and less productive than any other way. im n... levipleasecallmeback

    Are you really insisting that I, someone who suffers from panic attacks, don't know how panic attacks can be resolved? Girl, I wasn't fighting you about it but is this really how you're gonna act? It might not be your favorite 100% effective method of soothing but if others who actually experience this say it would work for them, don't insist they're wrong

    Rin November 13, 2024 2:10 am

    Didn’t he do that to make him breathe

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 2:23 am

    to cabbagepanda ??

    wait what… i don’t understand where this attitude is coming from when i wasn’t talking about you being wrong, it was a criticism for only the author for throwing in a kiss and go? im so confused on how i keep catching strays? and before im misunderstood again, “catching strays” isn’t me saying you guys are stray animals, its a rhetorical question asking why i keep getting dissed

    i wasn’t even arguing with you, and my second paragraph was supposed to come off awkward (since we agreed on the same thing about physical touch). i was just conversing and you guys aren’t the only ones who experienced panic attacks (+ also study them). not that i owe an explanation but coming at me like this was surprising and unwarranted when we basically agree with each other and for the second time was misunderstood

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 2:24 am

    blocking me after completely misunderstanding me the entire time is insane and so unreal… i was being nice the entire interaction and some of you need better literacy skills

    levipleasecallmeback November 13, 2024 2:26 am
    Didn’t he do that to make him breathe Rin

    please reread my paragraph or any of my replies we cannot keep doing this