Adult Fujoshi dating advice

Fujoshi Princess April 12, 2017 11:23 am

I'm an adult fujoshi and I've currently started dating again. I'm wondering about other fujoshi and their romantic lives. Do you tell the person you're dating about your yaoi manga hobby? If so, when? If not, why? Also, would you date someone who is a fudanshi? Or would you be worried that you couldn't satisfy them sexually?
Also, any straight fundanshi out there? I kind of feel like they are an urban legend. Or just a hopeful fantasy on my part. I'd love someone to share my hobby with without worrying that I might not be enough for them.

Responses
    snowlady159 April 12, 2017 11:30 am

    I'm 21, straight (kissed a girl before tho), my bf is 22, together for 4 years. He knows i read this kind of stuff but the relevation came after 2-3 years of dating somehow naturally? like, reading manga and watching anime was known to him, but this ero-homo-stuff is kinda sensitive and makes some people question morals heavily :D so technically I´d say, after you fart in front of each other, yaoi is not a problem :D

    Kem April 12, 2017 11:35 am

    I know a fujoshi friend who's dating a fudanshi, and they're doing okay just like any normal couple. And um i was in a relationship but didn't tell my ex i liked this stuff (hardcore homo stuff) bcs he's kinda pure and i dont want to ruin him LOL

    V-Niki April 12, 2017 11:51 am
    I'm 21, straight (kissed a girl before tho), my bf is 22, together for 4 years. He knows i read this kind of stuff but the relevation came after 2-3 years of dating somehow naturally? like, reading manga and wa... snowlady159

    "After you fart in front of each other, yaoi is not a problem" Hahaha, I swear that's the best advice you could ever give and the best phrase I've ever read on the internet!!!(≧∀≦)(≧∀≦)

    Also, I'm happy for you that you have such a great bf who doesn't question you. :)
    I wish and hope that I'll find someone who loves me they way I am .

    BlingJonghyun April 12, 2017 12:05 pm

    Nope, straight fudanshi is not an urband legend.
    I had this boy in my class when i was a highscooler.
    He said that yaoi is erotic and stuff but he hid that fact from his gf.

    Well, i am myself is a yuri-joshi, and straight. ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

    Fuji Fuji April 12, 2017 12:37 pm

    Yo!
    Congrats on dating again! It's a great feeling to find someone ya feel connected with. ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶ So answering:

    tell them? Uh... duh. ( ̄ε(# ̄)Σ Ouch.
    Bu-but! WHEN is a good question! I didn't tell my boyfriend until a couple months in when I figured out he was familiar wit the yaoi cause he was also into anime and manga. In fact, he wasn't grossed out by yaoi at all and even ships boy x boy pairings in our favorite shows. So a good time is just when you feel comfortable with it!

    Also, before we started dating, I was informed that he leaned more on the gay side. This definitely lowered my confidence because I thought him dating a girl was not something he wanted. But we got together and low and behold we're going 2 years strong~ (▰˘◡˘▰)

    Does this make him a fudanshi? In a sense! He doesn't really see himself that way cause he doesn't read yaoi, but he wasn't afraid to say Matt Damon's butt is gold. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    Was I worried? Hell yeah! I thought just cause I didn't have a bag of skin and blood vessels swinging from my body we would automatically have shortcomings in them night parties. However, just cause your partner might also be interested in homo-erotica doesn't really make them unsatisfied. In most cases, fudanshi don't read cause they want that over-rated bongus; they read cause of the romantic tones yaoi offers.
    Like with my boi, he's a total uke in the sense he's the passive one and likes to just be loved (not like in the booty just emotionally cherished he's a freaking manly giant). He's absolutely happy and has told me that even if I heard that he was bisexual, he's only ever felt the best both sexually and emotionally with me.
    ┗(T﹏T▰)┛(I love him!)
    So essentially, I am his romantic seme that spoils and loves him to his hearts content! And not to mention he's named me the dominant role of the duo. Σ(  ̄□ ̄||) (me? the girl below 5ft???)

    So really, should YOU be worried??? Nah. In all honesty, the person who you're with won't dislike ya because of some guy on guy comics, cause if you really found the right guy, they will love you no matter what! Good luck fello fujoshi!

    Fuji Fuji April 12, 2017 12:46 pm
    I'm 21, straight (kissed a girl before tho), my bf is 22, together for 4 years. He knows i read this kind of stuff but the relevation came after 2-3 years of dating somehow naturally? like, reading manga and wa... snowlady159

    Hahaha! In all honesty, nothing can be a problem when ya pass the fart milestone

    Anonymous April 12, 2017 1:44 pm

    I told my bf as well, nothing to be ashamed of.

    anonymous April 12, 2017 2:10 pm

    I told my crush I'm a fujoshi on our first meeting lol he was amused. Like who in their right mind would confess about that so openly to strangers, probably that's what he was thinking. But he ended up falls in love with me. I don't know who's weirder, me or him :-/

    Val April 12, 2017 2:59 pm

    I have a boyfriend which is homophobic because bad things happen in the past but even tho I know that I still tell him that Im a Fujoshi because I dont like keeping a secret from him and even tho he HATE it so much he can still buy me something related to yaoi so its no problem if you discuss this matter with your bf so that way you can know about his opinion about yaoi thing. Good luck gurl (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    jha April 12, 2017 3:35 pm

    I think you can definitely satisfy your man after reading those Yaoi... hahahha

    sunshine April 12, 2017 3:57 pm

    well im 21 and i ve never had a boyfriend :p so i dont know but even if i would have i wouldnt tell him beacuse its not neccesary him to know such a thing like that . but if you still want him to reaaaally know and cant do anything else just do it :p he may hate this thing ofc but if he loves you much then this just can be a weird hobby to him :p

    lolz April 12, 2017 6:02 pm

    You broke the barrier. Cause most Fujoshis are single and Yaoi protects their chastity haha