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koizinc November 7, 2024 1:24 am

a manga website >_0

basically, my bf and i have been dating for 2 weeks just about now and hes just not it. we met through a friend of a friend after i introduced my friend, 'isaiah' (his real name is diff) and isaiah introduced me to my current bf 'kevin' (also an alias) Kenny is a great boyfriend and all but i think im just not feelings it, he spent 4k on me within 2 days of dating when i didnt ask for it, 6 days into the relationship, he says he's gonna move to my state and all. i fucked him over once and i dont wanna do it again, especially after all he spent on me. He also lowk made me uncomfortable when he would talk to me and say s^xual stuff, i enabled him and didnt say i was uncomfortable because i guess i was just weak? but I need help especially since he wants to move 2 min drive away from my house...hes also friends with my friend group so im even more worried about rhat too

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    koizinc November 7, 2024 1:27 am

    to be honest, i think i might just stick it out for a month and see if i still feel the same way but smth is telling me to run

    CaCtiBish~! November 7, 2024 1:33 am

    Honestly, just be honest and tell him you ain’t feelin it! That’s way better than leading him on and having him move close to you. Plus spending 4k after 2 days of dating? That’s a red flag girlll like I’m pretty sure thats like love bombing

    CaCtiBish~! November 7, 2024 1:36 am
    to be honest, i think i might just stick it out for a month and see if i still feel the same way but smth is telling me to run koizinc

    Lol I’d run (≧∀≦)

    Cha Cha November 7, 2024 1:42 am
    to be honest, i think i might just stick it out for a month and see if i still feel the same way but smth is telling me to run koizinc

    Girl, ngl I feel you its prolly stressful but dont wait a month. This man offers to move next to you after 2 WEEKS of dating just imagine what he'd do in a month??? I swear dont do it, if you're not feeling then it aint it and thats it. Im not even talking about the fact that he made you feel uncomfortable... thats not okay always and im telling you ALWAYS trust your inner instincts and never do something that makes you feel bad. Treat yourself better ur worth it!!!! I know I sound pushy but on god from outside staying for another month seems too much. He's trying to manipulate/guiltrip you into not leaving him with expensive stuff, its a bribe... if its something you can give back then do so otherwise say you'll pay him back ig, but whatever you do just dont push yourself to uncomfy situations like this.... best of luck!!!!

    koizinc November 7, 2024 1:46 am
    Honestly, just be honest and tell him you ain’t feelin it! That’s way better than leading him on and having him move close to you. Plus spending 4k after 2 days of dating? That’s a red flag girlll like I�... CaCtiBish~!

    im gonna try and break up w him...

    koizinc November 7, 2024 1:47 am
    Girl, ngl I feel you its prolly stressful but dont wait a month. This man offers to move next to you after 2 WEEKS of dating just imagine what he'd do in a month??? I swear dont do it, if you're not feeling the... Cha Cha

    im breaking up w him now but i feel like shit esp how i fucked him over in rhe past too and this was my second chance.

    Gurl November 7, 2024 1:54 am
    Honestly, just be honest and tell him you ain’t feelin it! That’s way better than leading him on and having him move close to you. Plus spending 4k after 2 days of dating? That’s a red flag girlll like I�... CaCtiBish~!

    Agreed, definitely sounds like love bombing. Listen if you're not feeling it there's no point in continuing it, people come and go and the real ones make you genuinely happy and stick by that is ofc if you treat them the same.
    Now in this situation I think rather than breaking it off out of nowhere you need to communicate and tell him clearly that you're uncomfortable with the speed the relationship is progressing with, unless you don't tell him, he won't know. Although I do agree that his actions are indeed weird communication is important too. If you let him do things, he will, if you state you're uncomfortable and he still does such things then it easily confirms that he doesn't respect your opinion/choices and its best to leave him.