I feel like sometimes therapists tell what the patient wants to hear to keep them coming back and slowly work on the issues
That's what you have to do with narcissists. Tell them what they want to hear, and only what they need to hear in VERY small doses. Or else they'll stop going over all, saying it's just not working.
Exactly! Finally someone is talking about it I thought i was the only one thinking about this!
That chapter still gets on my nerves when Keith was like i never had a healthy relationship expect that BDSM girl and even when was complaining to Natalia about it !
Like dude you piece of shit you were the unhealthy one!!!! You're the one who chooses to not have a healthy relationship and never even worked for one! Like how's it possible to have a healthy relationship when he kept going to that chishit and kept all his relationship one night stand!!
And ppl aren't supposed to fix him to tolerate his cheating if he doesn't want to fix it in the first place!
The fl was healthy for him .. maybe the way they met was rushed but later on he was starting to fall for her ! They were close really close to having it but then he had to side with that tessa and fuck it with chi and didn't even bother talking to fl unless Howe brought her to him!
And ppl have every right to choose a healthy relationship or run from when they see it toxic.. it's not about patience anymore if only one person willing to fight for it and the other doesn't want to change his ways or work for it
And even now even if he gets with Natalia is not gonna be like he's better or anything the only difference is gonna be that chi isn't around now so he won't cheat with her .. cause what's the difference now? In his attitude or mindset or anything? Nothing.. he's still the same old Keith and if was gonna change or learn from it , it would've happened right after that wedding shit and loosing tommy.. but now he's still going around doing the same shit and not even feel a little bit or shame when seeing tommy! .. so the only difference that chi isn't around..
The therapist said something like that "they don't have enough patience" as if they're blaming the other person for not patient enough dealing with ppl like Keith, hello ppl are already kind and patient enough especially the FL these people like Keith just don't want to change. My therapist gave me a reality check tho, I also hate it when my old therapist blaming the other person (not for similar case) and the situation like I'm aware I'm being the bad person but you're not making it any better when you're blaming the situation and others.