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I'm glad to see someone who has an empathy here. The comments really left a bad taste in my mouth but what can I say? Not all people share the same experiences. If we do however, we have different ways to cope up with it. And besides, we use different defense mechanism in response to it. Others may not understand what she go through but in my observation, her environment have a huge influence in the way that she thinks (of course that goes for her actions as well).
For me, she's like my auntie who only wants to best for her relatives but could not put it into words so she use whatever she experiences as a guide even though she and the rest of us would have different responses to it.
sorry to say this but as someone who's queer, even this "its for your own good" perspective is still homophobia as its still a rejection of their true identity and love. its still hurtful and im sure most of the comments have experienced this kind of homophobia, though i still don't agree with their extremely cruel comments
also even if she did trust them it still didn't give her the right to set our ML up with different dating programs without his knowledge? cause at the end of the day, she's still just their neighbour in crying AHNXBSHSHHAGS
as another queer person myself, i'm sorry for those that have been hurt by comments like "it's for your own good" but again in the manhwa she's a young girl and really still learning new things about the world itself.
So this is probably her way of looking out for the mls without any ill intent.
Humans are always afraid of the unknown and it takes time for them to understand and learn to accept.
As a queer person, kids who gives out 'homophobic' comments are not really homophobic but its just a view on the environment that they grew up in.
yeah thats just kids being kids LMAOO some of them do be nosy in their neighbour's buisness, that shows how close their relationship is
she's not really that young tho? im assuming she's already in her late teens (17-19) or already early 20's. But regardless, the point of my comment is that despite it being a different kind of homophobia, its still homophobia and her rejection of their relationship is still homophobic and defending her as someone "not homophobic" is gonna downplay the homophobia thats present in the real world. Its important we acknowledge that children CAN be homophobic as its hurtful to young queers thats been subjected to homophobia by "children" of the same age. Again, im not talking about the character here, im moreso talking about real people.
But to set them up with different dating programs?? thats too much even for adults thats more than just being "nosy"
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as a queer person living in a homophobic country, heres my take on it. she isnt as young as you portray her to be (shes not even in high school anymore shes college age) but youre right in that shes still young enough not to know much about the world. even so, people are allowed to criticise her actions in response to her trauma. not all trauma responses are healthy and good.
yes, people shouldnt laugh at her for being neglected, but look at it this way-- despite knowing how its like to feel othered, and to feel alone in her struggle, she still did not support them. now, theres a possibility shell change her mind as the story progresses, and theres also a possibility she wont but the main thing is she still did something homophobic. yes, we can have empathy for her plight, but it doesnt mean we excuse her actions. what happened to her can be a reason for what she did but never an excuse. what she did was still homophobic no matter what her reason was and where she lived.
ive had relatives who were and are still homophobic. do i consider then homophobic even though theyre good people despite that fact? yes. people can be labeled something bad despite being good otherwise because people arent perfect. now its up to them if they want to change or not. if they change then they arent homophobic anymore and if they dont theyre still homophobic. my point is, people who are good otherwise can still be homophobic.
@ moony Gurl just say you are going to defend her at an point instead of writting whole ass paragraphs. Everyone got different opinions, yet you are defending her like homophobic is the only bad characteristic in her, she's literally the one using the victim card and that fucking excuse will not get her anywhere neither do you. You being queer will not change others perspective. Even as a queer person, every queer person experiences differs, get that in mind. Aside from being homophobic, her whole ass excuse was " Neglected child" Yet she didn't take a fucking care of her granny wow ....... Excuses excuses my Lord, what you wrote are also excuses just to defend her
Lol people tend to defend guilty women even if she ruins their family eww
Maybe this is her way of looking out for our 2 mls.
She's saying that it sucks to live a life that's diff from most kids who have parents that are attentitive. It's painful to see that and thus she rather go back to a small town where there are fewer kids of her age.
So when she saw our 2 mls kissing in a small town and not seoul, she's worried that they'll get hurt by having the village ppl rejecting their relationship. This is basically her way of looking out for them as rn her beliefs are (being different = hurt)
She's not homophobic like; "ew ur sinning agaisnt god by kissing the same gender, yuck bla bla bla" She cares and trusts them a lot hence why she's willing to open up about her struggles and giving them advice albeit that wasnt good.
Not yall in the comments saying that her story is womp womp in the name of defending lgbtq+, lgbtq+ represents inclusivity and we try to understand and accept ppl as who they are compared to our homophobia peers
Have some empathy geez